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Making Sex Sacred

September 29, 2013

I’m a guy and as such, I need to keep things simple.  The only thing sacred is love. Everything else is commentary.  That is pretty simple.  We associate words and behaviors with love.  So, sacred sex is like going to church, at least two orders of magnitude better. 

Our bodies are temples.  With all the shame out there to which we have been exposed, it is a lot easier to think of a woman’s body as a temple than our own.  No worries.  By treating her body as a temple, you will see that yours is a temple too.  There are magnificent cathedrals and temples all over the world, gilded and clad with fine art.  Entering there is an awesome experience.  It does not compare to the awe of entering your beloved.  When inside a cathedral, we are limited by walls.  Inside our beloved, the Universe is open to us.

We stand outside the temple, admiring it.  It is inside the temple where we are itimately blessed with love.  So what is inside?  Do you see and feel her love?  This love must be treated with reverence and respect as you treat her body with reverence and respect. Her yoni is the altar where we worship the love between us, yet her whole body is the temple; not one square inch to be neglected with our worship.  In Tantra, it is said those who worship at the altar of love have all their dreams materialize.  It is true.

In visiting a cathedral, we are tourists.  In worship there is ritual, and don’t let the word worry you.  It is simply preparation to worship and a means of worship.  It may be considered as the behaviors of love intensified.  (  What we call foreplay is only a part of the ritual.  In this ritual, here you and your beloved are open to what ever resonates with you.  It may consist in nothing more than quartering an apple or peeling an orange to feed (nourish) each other before heading to the bedroom.  It may be in preparing the bed with sheets and towels to absorb her orgasmic emissions.  It may be simply brushing her hair.  There are many more.

In Tantra there are mantras to recite before and during sexual congress.  These are a bunch of words I cannot pronounce and don’t know what they mean.  For us, a good mantra would revolve around the word “love.”  “I love you.  I give you my love. I receive your love.  I want your love.”  This type of thing.  The importance is not only in the words but also in the sound.  There are technical reasons for this just as important as the technical positions we use in making love. 

Although it is pleasurable in itself to spend time on these rituals, in many cases, a lot of time may not be necessary.  Everyday behaviors of love are cumulative.  Quickies can be sacred too, as long as we hold an attitude of love.  Mix it up.  Variety is the spice of life, and we will never exhaust all the possibilities with one beloved woman.

When regarding her orgasm, it is HER orgasmic experience she is sharing with you.  It is a gift to you.  It is a gift she trusts you to appreciate.  Asking for her orgasmic experience, this gift, may also be a part of your mantra.  This may be because she feels safe in your love and devotion.  The same hold true with her other sexual responses such as ejaculation, or orgasmic emissions.  Her body and that which comes forth from it is a gift.

Imagine yourself water-less in the desert. You are not yet delusional with dehydration, but close and your thirst seems unquenchable. As you stop to wipe your dried brow, a great ball of light appears before you. From this ball of light steps a winged angel in diaphanous robes, radiant with a beauty before unknown to you. In her hands is a container of life-giving water. But, not just any container: this is the Holy Grail, the sacred chalice of life. The water is holy, sacred water that nourishes your soul as it quenches your thirst. Falling to your knees in both physical weakness and gratitude, you reach out for it, so willing to accept this precious gift offered. As your parched lips touch the rim of the chalice, you are overwhelmed with gratitude and a peaceful ecstasy. As the sacred water trickles down your throat, you feel it nourishing you soul as it nourishes your body. You are empowered to continue your journey in life and most guys don’t even say, “Thank you,” before they roll over and go to sleep. Not all angels have wings.  Expressing our gratitude is also imortant.

Too many of us think sacred implies somber and sacred sex isn’t any fun.  Have you ever seen a Black Gospel choir?  Are they having fun?  Hell yeah! They are having fun in their temple.   Life is to be enjoyed, and there is great joy in bonding, loving and expressing love erotically with your beloved.  It can be beyond your wildest dreams.

 Copyright Art Noble 2013

What is Spiritual Sexuality and Why? (In English)

June 12, 2011

Lets first take a look at what passes for spiritual sexuality today. And all this sounds very mystical and strange! There are many words I don’t understand, but those I do, have much in common with my belief system. (You can skim the next three paragraphs.) It is really much less complex than this. All it takes is that nasty, four-letter word, “love”. Is there anything more spiritual than love?

In Vajrayana Buddhism, tantric sexual practice (Sanskrit: Maithuna, cf. Tibetan:Yab-Yum) is one aspect of the last stage of the initiate’s spiritual path, where s/he, having already realised the voidness of all things, attains enlightenment and perpetual bliss.

Mantak Chia’s teachings about qi and cosmology are similar to the Taoist instructor Hua-ching Ni. In contrast to Ni’s writings however, Chia’s books lack discussion of philosophy, ethics or everyday practical advice. The system he presents is a narrowly focused system of qigong rooted firmly in neidan However, Mantak does talk about internal alchemy as a part of healing and applies this in his sexuality.

Guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, later known as Osho, used his version of tantra, neotantra, in combination with breathing techniques, bio-energy, yoga and massage in some of the groups at his ashram. He is the author of many books on meditation, taoism, buddhism and mysticism, and at least six on tantra. One of them is Tantra, The Supreme Understanding, in which he unpacks the verses of the Song of Mahamudra, by Tilopa

A lot of the words up there, I can’t pronounce and don’t understand! There are also Shamanic Sex and Sex of the Tarot, each disciplines to reach the same goal of enlightenment and bliss. Guess what? Love is a discipline as well! The bottom line is that love is a spectrum of energy of which sexual love only occupies a small part, as light occupies a small part of the electromagnetic spectrum. However, in order to love, we must get our egos and preconceived notions out of the way.

Sexual love is erotic. We cannot learn about anything with ears plugged and eyes closed. So, take a deep breath, grit your teeth, and get ready! Mantack talked about “internal alchemy” and Osho talked about bio-energy. It is actually electrochemical energy. In my radio show, “Female Sexual Anatomy – For Guys!”, I compare the female genialia to a power plant! They do produce some energy! There is even a diagram for you to trace the “transmission lines” (nerve trunks).

We know this energy somehow activates certain genes on our DNA, creating proteins (Hormones, enzymes, etc). Some genes. Science is primarly interested in dopamine and serotonin for pleasure and oxytocin and vasopressin for bonding. Genes are a sequence of base pair (rungs on the twisted ladder) on a strand of DNA. There are 3.1 Billion base pair. Genes occupy only 90 million base pair, leaving 3.01 billion base pair unaccounted for. Essentially, our map of the human genome is as accurate as Amerigo Vespucci’s map of the New World in 1507! So, it is relatively easy to blame whatever is happening on “genes” or other segments of our DNA we know very little about.

Historically, I am not alone in this view. Nahminides (?) in The Holy Letter (a 13th Century marriage manual for the Kabbalah) states the manual is “to produce learned sons”. Nahminides also suggests an attitude of reverence, not only for the partner, but for the act. One could consider this involves a change in DNA to make the brain a more effective organ. One cannot give what one does not have. In Sanskrit, the word for the vagina is yoni, or “the sacred place”. Considering other ancient sexual texts, it all makes sense. Also, ancient sexual artifacts have the “unknown” double spiral engraved upon them. I would suggest this is symbolic of the double helix containing our genes. Part of enlightenment is not complete technical understanding, just the general idea. Is this a correct interpretation of the scant facts? I don’t know and I don’t care. Something wondrous and amazing happens and that is what counts!

So, exactly what does happen and what is its value? First, we must clarify that the various sexual responses are not a function of love. A man does not have to be in love with a woman to have an orgasm and vica versa. Physiological responses are not necessarliy an indication of love, any more than the knee jerk response is an indicator of love. As the responses increase in levels of pleasure, what we are looking at is “hot sex”.

As I said before, love is this energy stuff. To be imbued with it, we simply have to open ourselves to it. I can’t open you, and you can’t open me. It is strictly an inside job. I envision my self with a door on my back. I open it, and the love-energy flows in. But, the inside door handle is chained to my ego. Drat! This is what the great spiritual teachers have been telling us for centuries: “Get your damn ego out of the way!” And THIS is where the discipline comes in.

So, what are the real benefits of allowing this energy into us, and sacrificing our ego-based identity? Some will say it is transcending the material world, living at a higher plane of existance. Buddhism speaks of perpetual bliss and enlightenment. Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich said, “The combination of love, sex and romance can lift a man from mediocrity to the altitude of genius.” For each of us, the results will probably be different, but a lot better than where we are now!

I’ve thought about closing metaphors like, “love is the salt and pepper on your eggs,” but that just makes them taste better. The one I like best is comparing sex to gunpowder. Having sex is like taking a handfull of gunpowder and putting it on the floor and then lighting it. We get a flash and a WOOSH! If we have the discipline to put into a casing with a cap and fuse, seal it and place it properly wh have an explosion with higher brisance. Better is bringing love into our life with reverence and respect for our partner. It is like turning on the light in a darkened room. It lets us see what we have never seen before.

Copyright 2010 Art Noble

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