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WE HAVE SEX WITH OUR HEAD. WE MAKE LOVE WITH OUR HEART.

January 23, 2015
   There are many of us I have seen on Facebook who are aware of what is really going on in this world: Flouride, Chemtrails, Geoengineering, economic manipulation, corruption, policy substituting for law, GMO’s etc.  We post these things on FB.  The question is no longer, “what are they doing.”  The question is what are we going to do about it?  I don’t know.  You do! For me, the answer lays in the field of love.

I got into the field of sexual biology to find out what was happening in my body as the result of erotic love.  I call it an “epigenetic event.”  That was the conclusion I came to.  It doesn’t make any difference what I call it, or even if it is an “epigenetic event.” Something wondrous does happen.  I simply chose a path away from all the woo-speak and double talk.

I can view the “Placebo effect” as an epigenetic event.  When the Doctor tells us we have such-and-such and hands us a pill, we trust him or her.  Trust is an attribute of love.  It exists in our relationships with others to some degree or another.  I trust that you will read this.  I also look at NDE’s where the party changes as epigenetic events. There are many ways of this occurring, and sex is not the only one.

I believe most of us are whack jobs in our own wondrous way.  Many were wounded by life’s experiences.  Some have healed and some have not.  It makes no difference.  We all have abilities beyond what is considered “normal.”  I teach.

The bottom line for me is I think most of us like sex.  A lot of us are having sex fairly regularly.  All I ask is you tweak your attitude a little and see what happens. Forget about this or that technique, or this or that mechanism of control, particularly of your body.  Get out of your head!  Go into your heart!  (My experience is the sex is much better that way.)  If you think you are in your heart, you probably aren’t.  I can tell you guys you probably have no concept of what a fantastic creature that woman lying next you is!  (Once she gets out of her head too.)

Our bodies are fantastic machines.  The heart is a fantastic organ and it does a hell of a lot more for us than pump blood. I think about primal man who didn’t have the centuries of conditioning we do.  It is a job to get rid of it.  It is all in our head!  By-pass it! Go through your heart!

I have no idea of what your results will be.  Your DNA is unique.  But we will be able to DO something other than post on Facebook.  One of the functions of the early god Eros was through us to create.  (Plato changed that.)  But we knew. We were told.  We were brainwashed.  We forgot!  We must create again.

The Alchemy of Erotic Love… forGuys: Chapter 1. Where Are We?

April 28, 2014

What do we think about sex and love? Why do we think about sex the way we do? Where do you start a book like this? The best place to startmight be from where we are, and then work both past and future. What is important is not what “we” think, but what you think, and why.

 

What we think about sex is unique to each of us, but generally ranges from “it’s better than masturbation” to “it’s the most wondrous experience in life.” What I found humorous in my research is there is no clinical or scientific definition of sex! We all assume everybody knows what it is and what we are talking about. The problem is we can only define it from our own experience and education. Then, our education depends on how we interpret the opinion of others based on our own unique experiences. And then, we have our point of view.

 

The first thing I would like to offer for your consideration is a clinical definition of sex. “Sex is the mental and/or physical stimulation of nerve endings, creating electro/chemical energy that may result in pleasurable involuntary muscle contractions in the genitalia and other sexual responses.” Sex is also a mechanism for transmitting love, and we’ll get to this later.

 

As we will see throughout the book, this definition opens a larger can of worms than it closes. I have observed involuntary muscle contractions ranging from a gentle fluttering or buzzing in the genitalia (accompanied by a sigh of relief) to something resembling a grand mal seizure. Further, science doesn’t know what the “nerve impulses” are or if they vary with the individual? The bottom line is what we know about sex is primarily the opinion of others (including me) that limits our perception and experiences. I have no idea how far you can go and all I want to do here is give you more options by taking your blinders off. You may experience more pleasure and have other results as well.

 

Generally speaking what I have learned from others is that sex is either about pleasure or procreation. A distinct effort is made to keep love outof the equation. I call this the “Pleasure/procreation paradigm.” A paradigm describes distinct concepts or thought patterns. Even with this definition, we each have our own perception of the concept. When it comes to sex, there are about 7.5 billion perceptions of sex, one for each of us, and each of us believes most of the rest of us holds the same perception, but if you don’t, you are a pervert. I don’t think you are a pervert. I think you hold a different perception of sex and love than I do. All I am offering you here is a different angle to look at your perception. As you will see in Chapter 7, our sexuality is simply based on how we view sex, and that is a function of many factors.

 

In1974, Robert C. Solomon noted, “It is one of the dangers of conceptual analysis that the philosophers choice of paradigms betrays a personal bias, but it is an exceptional danger of sexual conceptual analysis that one’s choice of paradigms also betrays one’s private fantasies and obsessions.”1 What Solomon did not recognize is the overall sexual paradigm under which we in Western civilization currently operate (for 5000 years+/-): pleasure and/or procreation. The paradigms to which he referred were but sub-sets of this one, which in and of itself is a political construct. What this political construct does is keep us focused on pleasure or procreation and keeps us from focusing on love. We will see that love may be different from what we imagine it to be and in the next chapter we will see it can change us in wondrous ways.
Maintenance of the paradigm may also be viewed as “the war between the sexes.” The primary strategy of war is “divide and conquer.” In this war, the tactics are the four “D’s:” deification, demonization, denigration, and dismissal. I’ve found a number of historic documents that blatantly show these mechanisms and will discuss them in detail later, along with more modern erroneous myths. The problem is even though we are not consciously aware of these myths and misinformation; they permeate our society. I’d never heard of the Myth of Lilith, yet for years limited myself to the missionary position.

 

Lilith was among the first to be demonized; later the Malleus Maleficarum demonized all women. The goal of deification is to put the opposite sex, or the sexual relationship out of reach as seen between Isis and Osiris. To some extent, even “motherhood” is deified. The extreme end of the sexual paradigm is for men to view women as either sacred brood cows or pleasure palaces: both ludicrous. A man’s love for woman will be the salvation of mankind, should they accept it and return it.

 

Around1250 CE, Vincent of Beauvais wrote the Speculum Maius (The Great Mirror), the Funk& Wagnalls Encyclopedia of the time. In there was a section consisting of 2734 chapters called the Speculum Doctrinale. Deep in one of those chapters is an admonishment for husbands not to love our wives too much. This seems to have stuck!

 

Dismissal can be more damaging than burning at the stake.“Pay her no mind. She’s just a woman.” (I detested Tool Time for this reason.) It would be easy to point out the vile put-downs, or denigration, of women today. But they are historic and will continue into the future. We can only change it in ourselves, and by boycotting those who persist in it. One damn good reason is backlash. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned! Or, “Karma is a bitch!” A better reason is what we men (and women) can do for ourselves by violating the Speculum Doctrinale, and loving. Through love, we may transform into the divine human beings we can be.

 

Through the ages, the word “divine” became woo-speak. It simply means having the ability to see or find the unseen. It is more about accessing our intuition and being able to solve problems without knowing how we are doing it. Although that “ignorance” in my left-brain, sometimes ticks me off, it works.

 

My point of view (POV) came from a transcendent experience, following my then beloved glowing like a firefly, lighting the room.  I was in blackness. There appeared a point of shimmering light, I recognized as my essence.

Then, another point of light I recognized as her essence.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The two lights danced toward each other,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

becoming one bright light.

 

 

 
Beginning with the blackness, I was inthe presence of God and God was smiling.  THE POINTS OF LIGHT HAD NOGENDER.  There was no masculine or feminine, divine or otherwise in this dimension, or plane, whatever you want to call it.  No more than photons have gender.  I don’t know if I had “an orgasm” or not.  This was a part of that orgasmic experience.

 

This type of transcendent experience is called merging and it has many variations, as many as there are “types” of transcendence. “Any kind of transcendence with a partner is no guarantee of a lasting relationship.”  I read this in Jenny Wade’s book, “Transcendent Sex,” ten years later and smiled, because she was gone in four days. All this is discussed in later chapters.

 

Our society, or culture what ever you wish to call it, conditions us to believe, as it once did me, men are penises with wallets attached, the larger the better, and women are toys for pleasure or breeding to satisfy our respective egos.

 

There was one other element to my experience I forgot to mention: love; as close to “unconditional love” as I have ever experienced.  As I plowed through my research, I ignored it.  But something was missing?  DUH! Love!  With love everything fell into place.  Better yet, I was aware that I could recognize the essence of someone and had the capacity to love that essence unconditionally as well as receive her love.

 

In this life, or on this plane, where most of us exist, men and women are different.  We have different anatomies, not only in our genitalia but also all over our bodies.  I believe this anatomical difference was given to us for a reason.  I can’t put my finger on it, but I like it. It seems first we unite in the flesh, becoming one flesh.  Then we unite as male/female to female/male. Then we can see our essence,without gender, though in this life our gender will be with us ‘till we die.  The order is immaterial and there may be more.

 

My work leads me to believe as sentient,biological beings we have the capacity to make this leap.  It is a process: quickly for some, a long winding road for others. I choose to begin at the beginning, in this plane, this life, leaving each to their own quantum leap.  Is there more?  Probably. I can only lead as far as I have gone and leave the door open for the individuals who wish to pass through.  I also recognize other POV’s, because mine is not the only one.   Yet in the other ones I like, I can always find the love, even with another name.

 

Why is my book “… for Guys?” I chose to begin at the beginning.  In this life, I am a guy. As such, I have no business telling a woman how she should feel, beor what she should do.  I don’t even tell guys this.  I tell them what I have done and observed what works.  I tell them what my perspective is and how it changed my life.  How I think it works is all intuitive speculation.  I just know the results.

 

I describe the fantastic male and female interior genitalia for guys, using parts lists and wiring schematics.  I talk about responses few have experienced or even heard of.  This is just so they will know and not be frightened when and if they happen.  I talk about anatomical differences between men and women.  Women have a better connection between left and right brain, due to a thicker corpus callosum.  Sensory perception is a function of both halves.  Women have about 4000 genes on Chromosome #23, and men only have 2084.  Women have the capacity for billions of different kinds of orgasms (slight to major variations) men may have a dozen or more and usually limit themselves to one.  We are all unique creatures, but women are far more fluid and their bodies respond in accordance with their monthly cycle, making them an adventure.  If nothing else, I hope men develop more respect for women, simply based on their anatomy. My goal is to make this book an anachronism.  We will look back on it and smile, shaking our heads, saying, “weren’t we silly. All we gotta do is love.”

 

We are going to get into Archeology later, but I have to wonder about primal man. Suppose there was one who could read English, who picked up this book. He would probably look at it and ask, “What do I need this for?” When looking at how primal man lived, Archeologists project their perception of sex, their sexuality, on to primal man. Each of them has their own agenda, mostly to show they are not perverted. This way, they get to keep their job. I wonder, if without all the garbage we carry around, primal man was not more “advanced” than we give him credit? It’s just a thought.

The Alchemy of Erotic Love… for Guys: Authors Note/Introduction

April 28, 2014

Author’s Note

          To get this out of the way, I have no “credentials” in sexology, biology, anatomy or any of the fields one would normally think associated with this topic. I don’t want them for two reasons:

  1. They simply promote or argue about the same old stuff, and

  2. They don’t have explanations for my experiences. After 13 years of scholarly research, I now have explanations and I’ll tell you about them!

My primary degree is in Ocean Engineering, I hold an MBA, and I once held the academic rank of Associate Professor. This means I can read and I can teach. From my work in the ocean I have a grasp on the fluidity of life. As an engineer I can say nothing happens without the application of energy. From my MBA, I learned about smoke and mirrors, image and illusion. This book cuts through the smoke and mirrors and I don’t give a damn about my image.

When it comes to sex and love, both men and women have been screwed over for at least the last 5000 years in Western civilization, the last 200 being the worst! Until about 15 years ago, most everything I was taught about sex, love and women (other than feel good) was either:

  1. A misogynistic, mythical lie.

  2. Didn‘t go far enough, or

  3. Was told to me by a woman speaking with her heart and I was listening with my head.

            Without much introduction to the esoteric aspects of sex, I was able to experience and observe sexual responses, far beyond mere orgasm. You could say, “I got lucky,” but I prefer to think of it as being blessed. I am also cursed with curiosity. First, with the use of social media, I validated these experiences with other people. To my great relief, I wasn’t nuts or alone; but now I am pissed!

            I looked not only at sexual sciences, but also genetics, “modern” anthropology and archeology, the history of sex and sexual politics. What I discovered is that we live under a sexual paradigm, or pattern, of procreation and/or pleasure. That’s it. That is all sex is good for: either pleasure or procreation. Then I saw this paradigm was and is a political construct, having nothing to do with the full range of our sexuality and ability to love.

To fully understand what was going on in our bodies, I had to look at our sexual anatomy differently than most anatomists. I also had to look at love differently. With these different perspectives, my varied sexual responses were easier to explain. In here, I only speak to those experiences I have had or observed, while mentioning others I have learned about. Are there more? Even with this objective view, I came to realize we will each respond differently, and base our view of sex on our own responses. All I can say is don’t limit yourselves any more!

           The next question is: why aren’t more men and women having these experiences? My answer is operative conditioning to maintain the pleasure/procreation paradigm. Yes, there are medical issues, but most of it is a historic head game. Sexual pleasure has had its ups and downs throughout history. As a poet and writer, I like words. I like to trace them back to see what they used to mean. Through the centuries, many of their original definitions have changed, usually into something we can’t fully understand. This is a part of the historic operative conditioning. If we are confused, we are more easily led: like sheep to the slaughter.

Today, there is a lot of focus on pleasure. On one hand, this is good. Pleasure is not the end “goal” of sex, but it is a step toward a third “p” in the paradigm: power! This political construct allows us to oscillate between “pleasure good” and “pleasure bad,” diverting us from power in the expanded paradigm. On the other hand, too much focus on pleasure diverts us from what can really happen for us.

Everybody writes on this topic from his or her own experience and perspective. So do I. I am a cisgendered heterophile, which in English means I am a guy who likes girls. From researching this book, I finally have a reason for monogamy, other than someone’s imposed morality. It seems to work better for me.

Introduction

            Alchemy is the mysterious science of turning base metals into gold and so on. We are the base metal. We are far more simply transformed into gold than iron or lead. “All ya gotta do is…” Yeah. Right. I said it is simple, but it is not easy. The secret of the process is too simple for most to understand, and the results can be beyond our comprehension. Don’t worry. We don’t need to comprehend it. In The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho says, “It cannot be understood by reason alone,” and, “When you possess great treasures within you, and try to tell others of them, seldom are you believed.” Don’t believe anything in here, except some of the cited science. Try it, and believe it yourself.

My path was by reason: science, anecdotal evidence, research and wondrous sexual experiences leading to this. Some of what is presented here is a “reasonable guess” or speculation based on what science doesn’t know, and that is a lot! My intuitive guesses as to how it works are only to offer a possibility of how it might work. It is a mystery and may always be a mystery. Who cares? It works.

When it comes to sex and love, it’s like most of us are following an 18-wheeler on a curvy, two-lane road in our Ferrari. After a while we lose patience and wind up in a crash of broken relationships or divorce. What we need is something like those cartoon scissor jacks under the car so we can safely get above the truck and see the road ahead. This book is that metaphorical scissor jack.

Sexual biology is the study of how our mental and physical environment impacts our sexual experiences within the human body, with emphasis on the heart, mind, brain genitalia and DNA coding. And how love may further affect the body. An example of our “physical environment” is our diet, and our “mental environment” is our individual belief systems, some of which are based on disinformation. “Disinformation” is information that has a little truth to cover the big lie they want you to believe.

This book is a definitive work in sexual biology. I can say this because to my knowledge, no one else has considered the wide variety of general aspects that affect us sexually. Today, there is a general impression, overt or covert, that men are penises with wallets attached, and women are dressed up, blow up dolls? I suggest these perceptions are damaging. We are each unique creatures, most with unmet potentials. In Chapter 12, I note we are all “mutants” or “micro mutants” in that none are genetic duplicates of our parents’ contribution to our DNA.

Most of us have our own unique views on sex, generally falling into the categories of pleasure and/or procreation. This is discussed in Chapter 1. We also have our own views on love ranging from “love is a phallacy,” to “love is everything.” Although I find myself leaning toward the latter camp, I don’t expect anyone to join me there, and it is not necessary for the purposes of this book. My purpose is simply to offer a different perspective (scissor jack) giving you a clearer look at the road ahead.

This book gives you information, mostly science, and speculation on what science doesn’t know and why. You can believe most of the science in this book. Just like every other author, I include science when it agrees with my experience and opinions from that experience. My experience goes beyond where science is, so I had to speculate, or intuit, on known science. If you are not interested in becoming gold through some woo-woo transformation, the material in here, hopefully, will at least enhance your sexual pleasure.

I ask you, the reader, simply to consider my speculation as a possible answer, but don’t believe it as hard and fast “truth.” I might be wrong in my speculation as to the mechanism of how we are transformed into “gold.” I don’t really care if I am right or wrong. These explanations make sense to me and they may to you as well. Further, it doesn’t make any difference. They are only possibilities. What I know is something wondrous does happen. So, don’t believe me. Try it for yourself and see.

One last thing: in studying sexual biology, I found a lot of girly woo-speak. Using this new perspective, there is a hardcore, science/engineering translation for woo-speak. The girls are right. They just don’t speak our language. Quite a few women speak out of their right-brain and we listen with our left-brain. And you wonder why we can’t communicate? Also, after a while, science can get boring too. I’ve translated both woo and science-speak into English where I can. The bottom line is we can study and argue about sex and love for the next 1000 years and there will always be a mystery.

Art Noble

Jensen Beach, FL

Erotic Healing?

December 14, 2013

I’ve been saying for a long time, “In love, we sacrifice only the comfortability of our limitations.”  I may have figured that out at the level of our “hardware and software.”

Our individual DNA coding is only a blueprint for our life.  Modern science looks at DNA as though it were fixed, except for epigenetics, where they don’t know what the hell is going on?  Well, at one time, “science” thought the earth was flat.  What science doesn’t tell us is we have the power to alter our DNA coding.  If you don’t like the blue print, write a change order.

That is a lot easier said than done.  In the video I posted by Dr. Bruce Lipton, he points out conscious positive thinking doesn’t work.  http://www.thetappingsolution.com/screening/int-lipton.html .  It is like me telling my computer to charge the BIOS battery on the mother board.  Telling it doesn’t work.  I gotta remove the protective case, pull the board, and remove and replace the battery.  The protective case is as our ego!  This of course makes me wonder if the ego is not the locus of our unreasonable fears?  Then I wonder if all our fears are unreasonable?  I go back to my own experience, and honestly don’t know if it will work for you?  Maybe for many, it will be better than what you have going on right now?  Of course, it is about erotic love.

At that time, I just wanted to give that woman all the love I could.  Then I figured God could do a lot better job than I could.  I imagined a door on my back, opened it and let God love her through me.  It only took a few days of this, in and out of the bedroom, before the experience that changed my point of view occurred.  https://thesacredfemale.wordpress.com/2013/10/27/point-of-view-on-love-and-sex-the-origin/

I wonder sometimes if all I have is a point of view, backed by research I looked at to justify that point of view?  I intuitively knew something was happening at the genetic level early in my research.  When I saw the figurine from 7000 BCE, I knew the artisan knew too! (I shamefully reproduced this from memory.)

figurine

The oversized vulva is a tribute to the power of erotic love and the double spiral was his model for DNA!  He didn’t really understand it, anymore than I did when I saw it.  As I write this today, I believe I only have a better handle on it.

When we made love before this, she would amazingly say, “You look twenty years younger.”  I felt twenty years younger and was filled with get up and go.  It was a lot different than having sex.  But this time… it is in the blog linked above.  I don’t know what her experience was, other that it was a powerful orgasm.  The involuntary muscle contractions were so powerful and consuming, she lost control of her anal sphincter muscles and the result was obvious on the protective toweling we had placed on the bed.

When we don’t know what the results of our love making can be, no matter how beautiful and awesome the experience is for us, we can be frightened.  One part of my mission is to relate these natural experiences as I have experienced them and as others have shared with me.  If they happen to you, you no longer have cause to be frightened.  You can enjoy and appreciate their beauty.

As I said, I don’t know what the rest of her experience was.  Four days later she was in the arms of another man, and called me to tell me about it.  Damn near killed me.  I recovered.  If it happens to you, you can recover too.  I’d rather it not happen for anybody, and maybe my work will help.

The bottom line here is when I opened the door on my back to let love flow through me to her, it shut the door on my ego.  I was not concerned about “giving her an orgasm” which is silly anyway.  It occurs in her body, not mine, and I now view it as her gift to me, as is mine to her.  By closing the door on my ego, and all of my ego based fears, something wondrous happened!  Not only the experience, but also it has given me a mission.

What I find really funny about all this is the artisan didn’t have all this “modern knowledge.”  Eastern gurus have been telling us for centuries to pare back our egos, and I blew it off as woo-speak.  Why does it work so well with erotic love?  Our passion.  From my hardware point of view is simply the amplitude of the energy frequency or frequencies (love) we are transmitting.

Now comes the good part.  Modern medicine tells us of many beneficial aspects of sex.  They do not consider the healing aspect of erotic love.  If they did, they would go broke!  Erotic love can heal us: physically and emotionally.  From my pint of view, we don’t have to know which genes on what chromosomes have been modified, in what way by what known or unknown fears to produce the blocks in our lives.  We just gotta love and be able to receive it.

There are two very important points here:

  1. “I” cannot heal of fix anybody.  All I can do is love them.  The healing occurs in their body at their genetic level.  I don’t have the foggiest idea of what is really happening, but whatever it is, it works.
  2. “I” have to get “I” out of the way to receive their love and be healed.  “I” of course, refers to my ego and all of its associated fears.  Some of which I am not aware.  I thought I got rid of them a long time ago.  Ha!  The same holds true for the partner we love.

Love will do the work as long as we are willing.  Sometimes when we aren’t.  My thinking is, it begins at home.  Loving myself so I can love others.  Receiving the love I give myself.  Then Loving—giving and receiving—our partner.  Then, we can change the world!

Copyright 2013 Art Noble

http://www.thesacredfemale.com

Sexual Perspective.

December 25, 2012

kissing
We each have our own, somewhat unique perspective on the subject of sex. Many times, what we say for political correctness and what we do are two different things. I feel we are like the five blind men and the elephant. Some stand on one side of the elephant yelling, “Procreation!” Yet, they do not stand in exactly the same spot, so their view and perspective is different. On the other side of the elephant, the crowd shouts, “Pleasure.” They too stand in different spots. The legs could be called “bonding,” “intimacy,” “kink” and “other” where other is GLBT etc. the tail, trunk and tusks are up for grabs.

Our perspective comes from what we have learned through our experience and our mental input about the experiences and dysfunctional beliefs of others ranging from hard-core porn to scientific research. As I was studying sexual biology, it occurred to me everything we do and feel is first a mental and or physical stimulation of nerve endings and secondly how our mind interprets, enhancing or blocking, those impulses. This interpretation impacts us at the level of our DNA, providing slightly different brain chemistry for each of us. This in turn, affects our behavior. The masochist stubbing his toe, might kick the chair again because it feels good? I don’t know.

Because the sexual responses I experienced were beyond orgasm, and what science says, I had to put sex in the category of nerve ending stimulation. As I continued to learn, I found that coitus, nor even genital contact, were necessary to elicit any of these sexual responses: they could all occur through mental stimulation. Of course, there is something missing fro the non-genital response: the warmth of human contact. What is this warmth? Could it be a tiny bit of love? And what is love? I’ve already discussed this in my blog, Love: A Many Splendored Spectrum. The result of this thinking is the premise; sex is a mechanism for transmitting love. This puts our elephant in an entirely different perspective.

I would point out, our pleasure/procreation paradigm is both incomplete and a political construct designed to keep us from even thinking about transmitting love during sex! Why? “Authority” does not want us doing this. Keep us fat dumb and happy with pleasure or kids and forget about love. This started about 5 or 10,000 years ago, so it is pretty well ingrained in us. I’ve looked at many of the admonitions about sex and love throughout history as well as the historic transformations occurring through erotic love. Those transformed realize how full of crap “authority” is on this subject which is why they want to keep us fat, dumb and happy.

Where others call our transformation a “spiritual experience,” because they don’t really know what is happening, I prefer to call it a genetic restructuring because I don’t really know what is happening. But, genetic restructuring is something I can get my head around to explain what the heck is going on in our bodies.

So, there you have it: both another perspective on sex and a reason why this has been kept from us. You are free to choose. I might add that orgasm can become a non-event—a miniscule thing compared to the joy and ecstasy available—when transmitting love.
© Art Noble 2012
http://www.thesacredfemale.com

Author’s Note

March 23, 2012

(This is the Author’s Note from my new book, The Alchemy of Erotic Love… for Guys.  We’ve been screwed over royally and I hope you are as ticked off as I am!)

When it comes to sex and love, both men and women have been screwed over for at least the last 5000 years in Western civilization, the last 200 being the worst!  Without much introduction to the esoteric aspects of sex, I was able to experience and observe sexual responses, or ancillary sexual responses, far beyond mere orgasm.  You could say, “I got lucky,” but I prefer to think of it as being blessed.  I am also cursed with curiosity.  First, with the use of social media, I validated these experiences with other people.  To my great relief, I wasn’t nuts; but now I am pissed!

I wanted to know what was going on in my body and hers’. I started studying sexual science and was again blessed to meet up with Dr. Beverly Whipple, a hard-core scientist, and Dr. Franceen King, a Certified Clinical Sexologist who is a licensed sex therapist in Florida.  Many of my experiences were to some extent beyond either of their sciences’, but provided a framework from which I could project solutions.  The ancients were very helpful as well.

I looked not only at sexual sciences, but also “modern” anthropology and archeology, the history of sex and sexual politics.  What I discovered is that we live under a sexual paradigm, or pattern, of procreation and/or pleasure.  That’s it.  That is all sex is good for: either pleasure or procreation.  Then I saw this paradigm was and is a political construct, having nothing to do with our full range of sexuality and ability to love. 

In 1974, Robert C. Solomon noted, “It is one of the dangers of conceptual analysis that the philosophers choice of paradigms betrays a personal bias, but it is an exceptional danger of sexual conceptual analysis that one’s choice of paradigms also betrays one’s private fantasies and obsessions.”[1]  What Solomon did not recognize is the overall sexual paradigm under which we in Western civilization currently operate (for 3000 years +/-): pleasure and/or procreation. The paradigms to which he referred were but sub-sets of this one, which in and of itself is a political construct.

To fully understand what was going on in our bodies, I had to look at our sexual anatomy differently than most anatomists.  I also had to look at love differently.  With these different perspectives my varied sexual responses were easier to explain.  In here, I only speak to those experiences I have had or observed.  Are there more?  All I can say is don’t limit your selves any more!

The next question was: why aren’t more men and women having these experiences?  My answer is operative conditioning to maintain the pleasure/procreation paradigm.  Yes, there are medical issues, but most of it is a historic head game!  Sexual pleasure has had its ups and downs throughout history.    Today, there is a lot of focus on pleasure.  On one hand, this is good.  Pleasure is not the end “goal” of sex, but it is a step toward a third “p” in the paradigm: power!  This political construct allows us to oscillate between “pleasure good” and “pleasure bad,” diverting us from power in the expanded paradigm.  On the other hand, too much focus on pleasure diverts us from what can really happen for us.

Maintenance of the paradigm may also be viewed as “the war between the sexes.”  The primary strategy of war is “divide and conquer.”  In this war, the tactics are the four “D’s:” deification, demonization, denigration, and dismissal.  I’ve found a number of historic documents that blatantly show these mechanisms and will discuss them in detail later, along with more modern erroneous myths.  The problem is even though we are not consciously aware of these myths and misinformation; they permeate our society.  I’d never heard of the Myth of Lilith, yet for years limited myself to the missionary position.

Lilith was among the first to be demonized, but the Malleus Maleficarum demonized all women.  The goal of deification is to put the opposite sex out of reach, or the sexual relationship as seen between Isis and Osiris.  To some extent, even “motherhood” is deified.  The extreme end of the sexual paradigm is for men to view women as either sacred brood cows or pleasure palaces: both ludicrous.

Around 1250 ACE, Vincent of Beauvais wrote the Speculum Maius (The Great Mirror), the Funk & Wagnalls Encyclopedia of the time.   In there was a section consisting of 2734 chapters called the Speculum Doctrinale.  Deep in one of those chapters is an admonishment for husbands not to love our wives too much!  This seems to have stuck!

Dismissal can be more damaging than burning at the stake. “Pay her no mind.  She’s just a woman.”  (I detested Tool Time for this reason.)  It would be easy to point out the vile put-downs, or denigration, of women today, particularly in an election year. But they are historic and will continue into the future.  We can only change it in ourselves, and by boycotting those who persist in it.  One damn good reason is backlash.  Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned!  Or, “ Karma is a bitch!” A better reason is what we men (and women) can do for ourselves by violating the Speculum Doctrinale.  Just love!


[1] Solomon, Robert C., J. Phil (11)336-345, 1974

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Copyright 1012 Art Noble

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Sex at Dawn – A Different View.

March 6, 2012

By Dr. Christopher Ryan and Dr. Cacilda Jetha, Harper Perennial 2010

 Dr. Christopher Ryan beautifully and passionately described prehistoric sex with many academic citations.  In the introduction he states, “Our cultivated ignorance (about human sexuality) is devastating.”  I heartily agree. Then, Chapter 2: What Darwin Didn’t Know About Sex.  Perhaps it is not the anthropologist’s job to investigate the power and malleability of the human mind, yet the human mind is both.  Nor, perhaps, is it their job to investigate more deeply the nature of love, than to pass it off as hormonal brain chemistry.  However, in dealing with sex, we must look at both.

 Dr. Ryan points out we all write from our own perspective, based on our experience and prior teachings.  He notes, “Hobbes took the madness of his age, considered it normal, and projected it back into prehistoric epochs of which he knew next to nothing.”  By the same token, Dr. Ryan writes within the long standing, politically imposed sexual paradigm of pleasure and/or procreation, then limiting pleasure to orgasm. I write from mine.

 There are many ancillary responses occurring with or without orgasm or even sexual contact.  Sexual emissions (“ejaculation”) in both male and female are a separate, but an associated physiological response and the human female has three sources where the male has but one.  Transcendence or “altered brain chemistry” is another, which may also occur without sex.  Orgasmic bioluminescence is reported not only by modern women but also referred to in ancient sacred Shamanic texts as “Dragon’s Fire/Breath.”  Then we have Napoleon Hill’s “transmutation,” where “the combination of love, sex and romance can raise a man from mediocrity to the altitude of genius.”   This transmutation was first noted in The Epic of Gilgamesh, 2600 BC, so it is nothing new.  Further, it is probably genetic in nature, so transmutation is a good word.  It is not known how these experiences affected the ancients.  No one to my knowledge ever reported observation of a “glowing bonobo.”   And how would we know if a bonobo had a transcendent sexual experience?  Humans are a little different.

 Dr. Ryan has no doubt love was present in the prehistoric era, but blows it off, leaving to believe, as Dr. Helen Fisher, it is simply “brain chemistry.”  This excludes all other forms of love by omission.  He also points out the Speculum Doctrinal, around 1250 AD, abjures a man for loving his wife too much, then goes on to say some modern love songs are examples of stalking.  Perhaps.  Humans throughout history are known to screw up an anvil with a rubber mallet.

 He mentions primal behaviors of love, such as grooming, gazing and nourishing without labeling them as behaviors of love.  Both erotic and non-erotic touching is also a behavior of love.  I’ve never seen a bonobo, but I’ll bet a nickel they are touchy-feely.  He does talk about mating cries which, according to Robin Williams in Dead Poet’s Society, humans extended into language.  We can express both a desire to “mate” and love.

 He pointed out in the hunter-gatherer age, “women typically breastfeed each child for five or six years.”  Later Ryan states, “Considering its almost total lack of muscle tissue, the female breast wields amazing power.”  The female (and in one case, male) breast is an organ of nourishment.  Nourishing is a behavior of love.  Could we men be subconsciously looking for love, yet denying it due to the pleasure/procreation paradigm?

 Dr. Ryan also limits his discussion of sexual behavior to primates, stating only bonobos and humans have sex for pleasure.  This is based on ovulation cycles.  Bottlenose dolphins (tursiops truncatus) apparently, may be another species.  Then again, in the Kama Sutra the yab yum (female on top of male sitting) is a bonding exercise where gazing is the mechanism rather than orgasm.  This gives a different aspect to lap dancing.  Perhaps dolphins, who are as monogamous as gibbons, have sex for bonding?

 Although Dr Ryan discusses pair bonding, he does not mention attachment; as different a human behavior as absorption is a different physical behavior from adsorption. I was pleased to see his discussion on MHC, a woman’s nose and the deleterious effect of birth control pills.  As wild speculation, suppose a woman’s nose could also smell beyond our male immune-compatibility and by his smell, determine her ability to transmute him, based on his genetic make-up?  We only learned of woman’s ability to smell MHC a few years ago.  Hill said it takes love.  If it were just sex and romance 99.99% of all the men on this planet would be geniuses.  Sadie Hawkins Day might have been a good thing. 

 Toward the end, he speaks to “variety is the spice of life.”  He views it as doing the same thing with different women.  Do we ever consider doing different things with the same woman?  He also points out the malleability of the human mind where a woman walks out on a cheating husband as though she were reading from a script.  We could also call it brainwashing.  It is neither good nor bad.  There could be many other conditions.  What is “bad” is the fact we are programmed and this is the tip of the iceberg.

 Oh, the angst of a poet!  One over riding, unstated thesis comes through this book: a Greed Based Civilization is a disease, responsible for more premature human deaths than any other cause.  Who knows?  GBC might be an STD.  Love might be the cure, and the future of evolution.

 Copyright Art Noble 2012

www.thesacredfemale.com

ARE YOU INTERESTED IN SEX?

November 3, 2011

Most of my experiences in sex and sexual love (they are two different things – a matter of attitude) out stripped my knowledge of what was going on at the time.  Until my experience with transcendent sex, I thought: “Hey!  It felt good!  Who cares?”

Then, I had a little change and wanted to know what the heck was happening to me.  For this reason, my research was broad, encompassing just about everything from modern sexual science to ancient sexual history, including political history, microbiology, genetics, and that funny stuff called love.

With this, I have a broader knowledge of this subject than most of the people on this planet.  I also know that there are thousands of questions I cannot answer and millions of questions we know not how to ask!  I also have a unique perspective.  I cannot and do not say that I am right or wrong.  Sexual science does not go as far as I have been, so all I can do is speculate base on their suggestions.

A few of my articles are linked on this site: www.thesacredfemale.com/blogs.html.  One thing is for sure: we can “study” sex for the next century and still not know it all, because somebody will come along and have a new and different response with a different effect.  This material is both scientific and speculative.  It may be viewed as suitable for teen-agers, with parental approval.

The bottom line is we are all far more fantastic that we have been told we are!  I believe all it takes is love.  If you like what you read, please feel free to share it with others.  We can all use each other’s feed back.

An Overview

October 22, 2011

Sex is at the root of life: without it, there would be no life!  It is a part of life we generally put into “boxes” of different shapes, colors and sizes, isolating it from the rest of life.  For the most part, we remain ignorant of values other than pleasure and/or procreation and even limit ourselves in these areas.

 

Love is a “many splendored” spectrum.  Scientists all over the world contribute to knowledge of aspects of this spectrum and its beneficial impact on humans in specific areas.  We talk about “making love” which for many is simply a justification for having sex.  Our concepts of love vary from person to person as do the boxes into which we put sex.

 

We are at a point in history where science is making inroads into discoveries about the human body from sub-microscopic discoveries about our genetic code to gross anatomical and physiological discoveries about our sexual bodies.  Even our “psychological bodies” are falling into the realm of science.  Perhaps, as the saying goes, “God isn’t finished with us yet.” 

 

Since Einstein and the field of quantum mechanics, everything seems to be about energy, even life itself!  Energy, then, may be a common denominator for viewing love, sex and the impact of these things on the human body.

 

In reality, it makes no difference what science discovers.  Science can only put names to what happens; it will happen with or without names.  However, science can show possible mechanisms for our continuing evolution, beyond the standard gene pool theory.

 

At this time, there is little or no integration of the various disciplines bringing these topics under the umbrella of life.  Perhaps it is time to begin to integrate the fields?  The average man on the street requires no knowledge of quantum mechanics or anatomy or genetics to accomplish the improvements in his life.  As Hill put it in 1937, “The combination of love, sex and romance can raise a man from mediocrity to the altitude of genius.”[1]  It happens!


[1] Think and Grow Rich, Hill, N,  Random House, New York, 1996

copyright Art Noble 2011

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