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“Sex Experts” and Sexual Biology

October 29, 2014

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It is my opinion there is no such thing as a “sex expert.” Various experts will try and tell you, “If you do this then that will happen.” Or they will tell you, “ALL men or women are like this or that.” I will agree that some generalities may be applicable in some cases at certain times. Mostly I find nothing but authoritative opinion based on limited experience projected onto men and women as universal truths. My response is, “Bullshit!”

When I began my research under the guidance of Dr. Beverly Whipple, one of the great lessons I learned is “all women are different.” So are men. I was acutely aware of her scientific statements: “the data suggest….” And, “it appears that…” This gives us only generalities that are applicable to that specific and tiny study population.

I have experienced and observed a relatively broad range of orgasmic experiences. I have anecdotal evidence of more. I have also learned not to limit ourselves. Just because I don’t know about a specific experience you may have doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Just because you don’t have one of the ones I describe, or have it differently than I describe, only means you don’t have it or have it differently. You are unique where you are right now.

I will say I believe our orgasmic experiences are a function of our unique DNA coding and that is impacted by our epigenome. Much of our epigenome is created by fear. It is essentially like wrapping up our genes with duct tape so they cannot be expressed, or produce the amino acids and thereby proteins that create various sexual responses in our bodies, including pleasure. Just because I believe it doesn’t make it true or a fact. It appears to work.

It also appears “love” un-wraps the “duct tape” from our genes allowing them to express or shut down in cases where they are not supposed to work. This is why I view love as an energy spectrum. I have no idea which frequency or frequencies act on anybody’s genes to produce the varying responses. Neither does anybody else. I can only tell you about a few responses I have experienced, observed or about which I have been advised. I can tell you about things in the human body that appear at a gross level to be common or in some cases unique.

For example, some women as part of their orgasmic experience, will have a clear, copious emission (250 -500+ ml) through the vagina. This is natural for them. Others may have a clear copious emission through the urethra (125 + ml) in addition to the milky emission from the female prostate (5- 15 ml). It doesn’t make any difference. As a guy, my job, our job, is to accept and appreciate what ever response she offers. We also need to listen to her and her body with our heart.

Some women have no control over their responses. They are going to respond the way they do whether we love them or they love us or not. Our love for them simply makes them feel safe, or confident in knowledge we will accept their response with gratitude, no matter what it is. WE ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR RESPONSE! WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING THEM FEEL SAFE ENOUGH SO THEIR BODY WILL RESPOND. Our love for them un-wraps our genes. Their love for us un-wraps their genes.

Some of the fears we hold are buried so deeply in our sub-conscious we don’t even know we hold them. Love seems to work anyway. My opinion is that with love, we are each our own “sex experts,” and I only have one X-chromosome. I can only tell you of a few things that may happen and some of the things in our common history that appear to wrap up our genes. We are fantastic creatures. My wish is for each of us to grow into our fantastic selves.

Making Sex Sacred

September 29, 2013

I’m a guy and as such, I need to keep things simple.  The only thing sacred is love. Everything else is commentary.  That is pretty simple.  We associate words and behaviors with love.  So, sacred sex is like going to church, at least two orders of magnitude better. 

Our bodies are temples.  With all the shame out there to which we have been exposed, it is a lot easier to think of a woman’s body as a temple than our own.  No worries.  By treating her body as a temple, you will see that yours is a temple too.  There are magnificent cathedrals and temples all over the world, gilded and clad with fine art.  Entering there is an awesome experience.  It does not compare to the awe of entering your beloved.  When inside a cathedral, we are limited by walls.  Inside our beloved, the Universe is open to us.

We stand outside the temple, admiring it.  It is inside the temple where we are itimately blessed with love.  So what is inside?  Do you see and feel her love?  This love must be treated with reverence and respect as you treat her body with reverence and respect. Her yoni is the altar where we worship the love between us, yet her whole body is the temple; not one square inch to be neglected with our worship.  In Tantra, it is said those who worship at the altar of love have all their dreams materialize.  It is true.

In visiting a cathedral, we are tourists.  In worship there is ritual, and don’t let the word worry you.  It is simply preparation to worship and a means of worship.  It may be considered as the behaviors of love intensified.  (https://thesacredfemale.wordpress.com/2011/10/08/behaviors-of-love/)  What we call foreplay is only a part of the ritual.  In this ritual, here you and your beloved are open to what ever resonates with you.  It may consist in nothing more than quartering an apple or peeling an orange to feed (nourish) each other before heading to the bedroom.  It may be in preparing the bed with sheets and towels to absorb her orgasmic emissions.  It may be simply brushing her hair.  There are many more.

In Tantra there are mantras to recite before and during sexual congress.  These are a bunch of words I cannot pronounce and don’t know what they mean.  For us, a good mantra would revolve around the word “love.”  “I love you.  I give you my love. I receive your love.  I want your love.”  This type of thing.  The importance is not only in the words but also in the sound.  There are technical reasons for this just as important as the technical positions we use in making love. 

Although it is pleasurable in itself to spend time on these rituals, in many cases, a lot of time may not be necessary.  Everyday behaviors of love are cumulative.  Quickies can be sacred too, as long as we hold an attitude of love.  Mix it up.  Variety is the spice of life, and we will never exhaust all the possibilities with one beloved woman.

When regarding her orgasm, it is HER orgasmic experience she is sharing with you.  It is a gift to you.  It is a gift she trusts you to appreciate.  Asking for her orgasmic experience, this gift, may also be a part of your mantra.  This may be because she feels safe in your love and devotion.  The same hold true with her other sexual responses such as ejaculation, or orgasmic emissions.  Her body and that which comes forth from it is a gift.

Imagine yourself water-less in the desert. You are not yet delusional with dehydration, but close and your thirst seems unquenchable. As you stop to wipe your dried brow, a great ball of light appears before you. From this ball of light steps a winged angel in diaphanous robes, radiant with a beauty before unknown to you. In her hands is a container of life-giving water. But, not just any container: this is the Holy Grail, the sacred chalice of life. The water is holy, sacred water that nourishes your soul as it quenches your thirst. Falling to your knees in both physical weakness and gratitude, you reach out for it, so willing to accept this precious gift offered. As your parched lips touch the rim of the chalice, you are overwhelmed with gratitude and a peaceful ecstasy. As the sacred water trickles down your throat, you feel it nourishing you soul as it nourishes your body. You are empowered to continue your journey in life and most guys don’t even say, “Thank you,” before they roll over and go to sleep. Not all angels have wings.  Expressing our gratitude is also imortant.

Too many of us think sacred implies somber and sacred sex isn’t any fun.  Have you ever seen a Black Gospel choir?  Are they having fun?  Hell yeah! They are having fun in their temple.   Life is to be enjoyed, and there is great joy in bonding, loving and expressing love erotically with your beloved.  It can be beyond your wildest dreams.

 Copyright Art Noble 2013

www.thesacredfemale.com

The Messenger.

January 25, 2012

I would ask, “Who the hell is this guy trying to teach us something about sex and love?”  Then I would answer I have no academic credentials in this field.  My Batchelor’s degree is in Ocean Engineering and my Master’s is in Business.  I am a teacher, once holding the academic rank of Associate Professor.  But, I have something better.  Experience!

Experience by itself is of no value until it is analyzed.  So, I went to the best in the business of sexual science, Dr. Beverly Whipple, and started asking questions.  With my academic background, I was able to understand much of what I read.  I received answers and leads.  My experience went far beyond the state of sexual science today.  My questions started with female ejaculation.  Most of Dr. Whipple’s work was around Neurophysiology with a more scientific focus on orgasm and female ejaculation from the prostate.  I knew there was more.

In the past couple of years, there are scientific papers on orgasmic discharge from the urinary bladder (not urine) and from the vagina.  My experience was finally validated by science.  “But wait,” as Billy Mays used to say.  “There’s more!”

I had also experienced a form of Transcendent sex and orgasmic bioluminescence.  Through other leads, I found information on these subjects as well.  I also read material on sexual practices of the occult, sexual archeology and anthropology, sexual history and politics, and culled a little information on love.  Not much information on love, but there are clues.

Over the years, Dr. Whipple and I have become friends.  We can tease each other, but she allows me to get away with nothing!  On a recent visit I was telling her that transcendent sex was altered brain chemistry.  She asked, “Which part of the brain?”  Were science-speak more a part of my vocabulary I would have responded, “It’s idiopathic.”  But, I just said, “Duh! I dunno.”  On reflection, I wrote her and said I guess it depends on the form of transcendence.

A few things I have learned from or through her are:

  1. There are 3.5 billion women on this planet and they are all different, to one degree or another.  So are we.
  2. There is a lot more to sex than the Big O.
  3.  Sexual intercourse is not necessary to get any of the sexual responses, including the Big O.
  4. We’ve all been conned out of sexual love, and
  5. Perhaps most important, all of the “experts” including me, come from their own agenda, based on their experience and the lies they’ve been told over the centuries.  So do the rest of us.

Some of the “conclusions” at which I arrive, are simply my own thoughts on the subject: conjecture and speculation.  But I tell you.  And, like others, I pick and choose the science that validates my experience, but I try and let you know varying opinions.  For example, love is defined as a “feeling.”  I find the definition limiting.  Feelings come from brain chemistry due to certain genes being activated, or expressed.  I look at love as a form of energy all about us, which we can allow, or disallow, to express, or not express those genes.  If it is a feeling, then we are responsible for that feeling.  If it is energy, then we are only responsible for allowing it!

Why don’t we allow it?  Brainwashing!  Centuries of brainwashing.  I’ve traced some of it and quite frankly it pisses me off!  We’ve been inculcated to live under a sexual paradigm of pleasure and/or procreation.  I tell you from experience, there is a third “P:” power.  Napoleon Hill called it “access to infinite intelligence.”  My speculation (see what I mean?) is when sex is coupled with love, and the focus of the act is on giving and receiving love, rather than pleasure, we become empowered!  I again speculate that these energies express new, or modify old, genes, altering our brain chemistry positively.

Before I learned a lot of this, I wrote The Sacred Female, my first novel.  I wanted to share the experiences so that others might also share them with their beloved and become far more empowered than I.  Now I share the mechanisms, and possible mechanisms that create this experience and the power.

I am just a messenger.

Copyright 2012 Art Noble

www.thesacredfemale.com

On Circumcision

December 15, 2011

 Let me start by saying misogyny is not about putting women down, it is about keeping men down!  And men bit into it hook, line and sinker!

 To figure all this out, I take a bio-energetic view of sex.  Let’s face it.  During sexual intercourse, we are stimulating nerve endings to create electrochemical energy.  This energy expresses genes that give us the sensation of pleasure and OTHER SEXUAL RESPONSES, by altering our brain chemistry.  Transcendence, in its many forms, is one of these responses.  Transcendence is defined as “altered brain chemistry.”

 Now, let’s add a little salt to the bland stew of sex.  (Yeah, it’s bland by comparison.)  Let’s add love.  Can love express genes to alter our brain chemistry and transform us into “super human” beings?  Sounds like something out of fantasy.  Worse yet, just a bunch of romantic BS.  Unfortunately history, both modern and ancient, tells us otherwise.

 Circumcision is an operation that removes 50% of our penile skin tissue and 50% of the nerve endings attached to our pudendal nerve.  The operation leaves scar tissue that can become painful after orgasmic ejaculation.  How many of us guys have said, “Stop!  Stop!  Don’t move!  Don’t move! Oh God?” Yeah, it’s painful.

 Some girls say the same thing, but for a different reason.  Some during the onset of orgasm have the “urge to void,” as Masters and Johnson said.  Some don’t.  They don’t know that this urge may precede their orgasmic discharge, either from the urinary bladder or prostate or both, and they think they are going to pee on you.  The bladder discharge is also called Amrita (“The Nectar of the Goddess,” believed to give immortality) and is not urinary stress incontinence.  So, they tell you to stop.

 Compared to women, guys don’t have anywhere near the number of sexual nerve endings.  The penis is our main stick!  And then they cut off half the nerve endings!  They diminish our capacity to create electrochemical energy!  Bastards!  The good news is it didn’t work.  All we gotta do is add a little more love.

 I’ve heard the excuses.  “Covenant with God.”  “Cleanliness.”  If God didn’t want us to have a foreskin, He wouldn’t have given us one, and did you ever hear of soap and water?  Skin it back and wash it!

 I’ve also heard women say, “Ouuh!  Yuck!  Uncircumcised?  Yuck!”  Well, ladies, if men in their infancy had not had this MALE genital mutilation forced upon them, you wouldn’t know the difference!

 Now, take a look at this video.  It is just Dr. Ken McGrath in Australia talking about it.  www.youtube.com/watch?v=DD2yW7AaZFw  Consider it, then add some more love.  Just let it flow through you.

Three Jewels in the Crown of Female Orgasm

December 10, 2011

 I have known, observed and experienced things long before there were studied by science.  Many still have no scientific validation.  They are “bracelets” and “necklaces.”  But now I have science for these three, which I view as a gift of love.

 In 1999, Zaviacic wrote, The Human Female Prostate[1], essentially describing its function the same as the male prostate: ejaculation of about 5 ml +/- of prostatic fluid on orgasm.  Although Galen, around 200 AD said the same thing and Reginer de Graff, in 1660 also described and sketched it.  De Graff also noted his female patients described this as more pleasurable… in 1660!

 In the very near future, Emmanuele Jannini[2], will have a paper published in J. Sex. Med regarding orgasmic discharge from the urinary bladder that IS NOT URINE!  In his one subject, there was 127 ml (1/2 cup) of fluid discharged.  I have seen, but not measured, apparently greater quantities. In Tantric Sex, both act and fluid are called Amitra.  Many women were told this was “urinary stress incontinence.”  Not true!  There is less that ½ the concentration of urea in the fluid from baseline urine studies of the subject.  I would imagine this would decrease on subsequent orgasms.  (You don’t stop at one, do you?)

 Finally, there is a ring of glands inside the vagina, just in back of the hymeneal area (where the hymen used to be) that also quickly secrete a fluid.  In Uganda, this is called, “spraying the walls.” This was presented by Dr. I. Goldstein[3] at the AASECT convention last year and is also in the J. Sex Med.  I don’t have a copy yet and will update this blog when it comes in.

 Jannini noted prostatic ejaculation followed the bladder discharge.  Sherri Winston[4] told me in some women, vaginal discharge followed this.  I do not know if there is a “set” order for this, but I do know ejaculation can occur independently.  I wonder if Master’s and Johnson’s “urge to void” preceding orgasm was a precursor to bladder discharge or ejaculation or both?  Probably, “yes, depending.”  If you have the “urge,” let it go!  You’ll enjoy it!

 Copyright 2011 Art Noble

http://www.thesacredfemale.com


[1] The Human Female Prostate, Dr. Milan Zaviacic, 1999, Slovak Academic Press, Ltd., Bratislava

[2] New Insights from One Case of Female Ejaculation, Rubio-Casillas, A., Jannini, E., J Sex Med, ????

[3] ???? I. Goldstein, San Diego Sexual Medicine ????

[4] Sherri Winston, Center for the Intimate Arts, personal communication.

ILLUSTRATED SEXUAL ANATOMY – A DIFFERENT VIEW.

September 29, 2011

ILLUSTRATED SEXUAL ANATOMY – A DIFFERENT VIEW.

Sexual science, and even society today, views sex as a pleasurable activity.  It is for many, and for many, not.  Perhaps this is because we put the cart before the horse.  The cart is pleasure and the horse is love.  Even science focuses on sexual anatomy as structures or areas that produce pleasure.  Further, they refer to various proteins (neurotransmitters and receptors, enzymes and hormones) as the source of this pleasure.  But, the creation of these proteins is a function of our genes and science is beginning to show our thought energy is one of the major factors in gene expression.  (Genes are like switches.  “Expression” simply means turning the switch on.)

This different view of sexual anatomy looks at the various anatomical structures as energy producers, a more basic approach.  This is because our “thought energy” as reflected in our attitudes, along with physical stimulation, can not only express various genes, but also prevent their expression!

One of the attributes of energy is that it can be transmitted.  In this different view of sexual anatomy, we will look at the major nerve pathways from the genitalia as “transmission lines” from the various “power plants” in the human body and represent them as an electrical schematic.   Where previously we viewed love as some unknown energy to get a better handle on it, now we are dealing with “hard energy:” generally electrochemical energy.  Most of it is specifically unknown in terms of which ion is doing what to whom, but it is recognized as energy, though some of the terminology is euphemistic, like “chemical signals.”

We will show the structures in the human body that generate this “hard energy,” the sensitive areas, and the nerve pathways by which this energy is transmitted to the brain.  There may be more, but science hasn’t found them yet.  For clarity, we will show the structures in one diagram, and the sensitive areas with the nerve schematic in another.  I apologize for these draft sketches, for which either an artist or anatomist would shoot me, however they do convey two points: 1.  The female genitalia are far more complex than male genitalia, and 2.  The electrical schematic shows a possible biological mechanism for the Kundalini sexual response.

Fig1.  Female Genitalia.

 

Fig. 2 Electrical Schematic of Female Genitalia Nerve Pathways

 Pudendal nerve. 

Now, you don’t have to know these nerve-names, but as long as they have them, we’ll use them.  They are viewed as simply different transmission lines.  The pudendal nerve pathway innervates, or serves, the clitoris and the perigenital skin.

The clitoris is the first structure.  This is not an appendage, or something that is just stuck on.  We only see a little of it on the outside.  The nerve endings in the external clitoris are covered with Pacinian corpuscles.  These are like little socks over the individual nerve endings, making them very sensitive to vibration and pressure.

The drawing above shows only about 30% of the clitoris.  This is a magnificent structure and metaphorically representative of woman: there is a lot more inside than what we see on the outside.

The clitoris has roots on the inside.  It splits over the urethra and has two legs, each called crus, giving it a wishbone shape.  These legs insert on the anterior, or front wall of the vagina near the bottom.  The internal “legs” of the clitoris not only insert on the anterior wall of the vagina, but wrap around the whole darn thing.  And that is not all.  Alongside each crus, or cura, are bulbs of erectile tissue.  Gentlemen are familiar with erectile tissue.  During the arousal phase, many women will have this erectile tissue engorged, just like men’s.  Where the male’s sticks out, facilitating our entry of them, these wishbone legs may spread, opening the vagina slightly, also facilitating their entry by us.  This is commonly referred to as a “wide-on,” but scientists might call it “female erection?”

 clitoris

(Courtesy Museum of Sex, New York, NY.)

This sketch only shows the part wrapping around the vagina.  The next one shows even more of the structure, but not as complete.

 clitoris sketch

(Courtesy, Museum of Sex. New York, NY.)

The penis also has about 2/3 of the structure inside.  So, the average guy can now honestly claim eighteen inches.  But, what really counts is the size of your love, not your love organ.  The more conditions you impose on your beloved and yourself, the less love you can allow to flow through you.  And it is apparently our love that transforms us.  Sex alone may not do it.

In males, the pudendal nerve is associated with penile skin, scrotum and perineum (perigenital skin).  We lose 50% of our penile skin on circumcision.  The word  “penis” comes from a word meaning “animals tail.”[1]  Think of a dog.  (Many women do, so it won’t be difficult.)  The tail might stick straight up, or straight out as in pointing to prey, or hang between its legs.   It also wags when it is happy.  The word for penis in Sanskrit is “lingam,” which translates to “wand of light.”  One cannot help but wonder, if the word “Lingam” was originally the “wand of enlightenment?”  Or perhaps, the first “magic wand?”  So, gentlemen, have a little more respect for that thing.  And get a lot more respect for the yoni, or sacred place.  Right now, most all of us just see pleasure and there is so much more!

Right underneath the clitoris is the opening for the urethra, or “pee hole.”  This is also the orifice through which female ejaculate comes.  Around the opening of the urethra (meatus) is a very sensitive area called the “U” spot.[2]   It is not known if it is innervated by the pudendal nerve or not, but it would make sense.  Further, this is also a sensitive area for men on the glans penis (head).   It is best to point out here that all the “spots” are simply areas of greater sensitivity than the surrounding area.  These are not anatomical structures and therefore cannot be surgically modified.

Fig. 3 Electrical schematic of Male Genitalia

Perigenital skin.  The skin in this area is very sensitive and generally responds to light stroking, either digital or oral-lingual.  The pudendal nerve ties into the sacral nerve at the base of the spine at S-2 and S-3 (second and third vertebrae in the Sacral area) and the nerve impulses are transferred up the spinal column to the brain.  The term “sacral “ nerve comes from the word “sacred.”  Again, in ancient Sanskrit, the word for the female genitalia is “yoni,” which means “the sacred place.”  Also, this area, at the base of the spine, is the home of the Hindu “sacred life snake” named Kundalini.

The pudendal nerve enters the spine between L – 4, and 5, as well as S – 1, 2, 3 and 4.  L is a designator for the Lumbar area of the spine, and S is for the Sacral area.  These are being mentioned and shown for a specific reason, revealed in the next chapter.

So far, we only have three highly erogenous zones for women.  We are going to wind up with 16 for women and only six for men.  Are you beginning to see why women are such fantastic creatures?  And this is just the beginning!

Pelvic Nerve.

The pelvic nerve innervates the perigenital skin, the vaginal barrel in front of the prostate, the cervix and the rectum.  It is also believed to innervate the female prostate.  Note the perigenital skin is served by two major nerve pathways: pelvic and pudendal.

The first third of the vagina seems to have a higher concentration of pelvic nerve endings than the rest of the vaginal barrel. The sensitive area through the anterior wall near the opening where the swollen tissue or glands from the female prostate protruded onto the wall, was known as the “G spot” from 1982 on, and brought a great deal of attention to our sex lives in terms of additional pleasure for women.   It was thought, but not scientifically shown, to influence the “vaginal orgasm.” As sexual arousal increased, the prostate became engorged, which may increase the “size of the G spot.”  The G spot is not an anatomical structure.  It is the Sexologist’s term for a sensitive area where a response may be elicited when stimulated.  Not all women like, or respond to this stimulation, and prefer other areas to be stimulated.  The terminology of “G spot” did a great deal of good by focusing the general public’s, and science’s attention on female sexual anatomy.

Since we have mentioned the vagina, the origin of the word might be inserted here.  In 1559, Matteo Realdo Colombo, an Italian anatomist, writing in De Re Atonomica, described this anatomical structure as akin to the sheath or scabbard that holds the sword, literally in Latin, vagina equals scabbard.[3]   This is in keeping with the later, ancient thought that men are “penetrators.”

Female Prostate.  Galen, the famous Greco-Roman physician, first described the female prostate before the year 200 AD.  The female prostate is not as well defined as the male prostate.  The male prostate is composed of about 10 to 20 glands and ducts, nicely packaged in the Prostatic Capsule and snuggled up next to the bladder at the back end of the urethra.  The female prostate is composed of up to 100 glands and ducts, or more, around the urethra: hence the interim name, “periurethral glands.”  “Pariurethral” simply means around the urethra.  So, from that standpoint, the male prostate is also a “pariurethral gland.”

 

Figure 4. Female Prostate.

This drawing shows the arrangement of ducts common to about 10% of women.  Sixty-six percent have these ducts bunched up toward the meatus and 6% have the distribution more bunched up in the center of the urethra.  That percentage is based on over 200 autopsies of Caucasian women.  In different parts of the world, the percentages may vary, to the point where we say that the female prostate is like the nose: they are all different, some small, some large, some with bumps and some without.

While we are here on the G spot, if you will turn the drawing on the side, face up, it is easy to see how with the standard missionary position it is easy to miss, or not fully engage this area.  Various modifications of the missionary position can help alleviate this oversight.  We will mention that Grafenberg, for whom the G spot was named by Dr. Whipple and Dr. John Perry, suggests rear entry, or doggie style, to fully engage the G spot.[4]  When stimulating the G spot digitally, it is generally best to use two fingers, one on either side.  This also picks up the insertion points of the clitoris’s legs, or cura!  The pelvic nerve enters the spinal column at S-2 – S-4.  This is simply between the 2nd 3rd and 4th vertebrae in the sacral region of the spine.

The pelvic nerve only innervates one area in the rectum for men.  That’s four more for women totaling seven and one for men totaling four.

Hypogastric nerve.

The hypogastric nerve innervates the cervix and the uterus.  The cervix opens into the vagina.  While we are in the vagina—interesting thought—let’s go all the way to the top-front near the cervix.  This part is called the fornix and it also has been shown to contain a sensitive area.  The nerve connections are not known.  It is called “the A spot.”  That’s five.

On the posterior, or back wall of the vagina, there are a group of cells called the interstitial cells of Cajal.[5]  These are energy producers: calcium ions.  They are referred to as “electrical wave producers.”  Energy!  They are generally, or were first found, near the heart and in the intestinal tract.   From their proximity to the heart, they are called “pacemaker cells.”  Calcium ions trigger dopamine and serotonin neurotransmitters and receptors among other things.  These cells are additionally stimulated by pressure, which may be sexually induced.  Then we not only have nerve endings but also these little rascals producing ions, if we don’t hold them back.  These are connected to some unknown nerve nexus.  They are also found in the corpora cavernosum (penis “muscle”), so we have them too.[6]  This gives us two more specific, but suspected areas for women, possibly innervated by the hypogastric or pelvic nerves, or both.  We also have one for men.

There are now a total of four different areas (two just suspected) associated with the hypogastric nerve, some working in conjunction with other nerve pathways.  So the total for women is 12.  In men, the hypogastric nerve is associated with the testes and the prostate.  This totals 7 areas for men and we haven’t finished with women!  The hypogastric nerve has three different insertion points in the thoracic area of the spinal column at Th-10, Th-11 and Th-12.  “Th” refers to the thoracic area of the spine.

We have to understand that for the past few hundred years, there has been a guy here, or a guy there, that has scientifically looked at specific parts of female sexual anatomy and physiology.  But only in the past 50 years or so have these people come together, comparing notes and arguing over the “rightness” and “wrongness” of various scientific conclusions in this field.  As an example, a Malaysian physician, Chua Chee Ann, discovered the “A” spot in 1993.  Prof. Ali A. Shafik, from Egypt, wrote on the interstitial cells of Cajal in 2007!  This is what advances science and they have a long way to go!  But, many of the detrimental myths that we currently live with, now are being shattered by science.

Vagus nerve

The ladies have one more major nerve pathway in the genitalia: the Vagus nerve pathway.  It innervates the cervix and the uterus.  The vagus nerve doesn’t go up the spinal column.  It wanders around a woman’s body, leaving a path like some women on a mall-shopping trip!  “Vagus” means wanderer.  Now, of course, the male vagus nerve is much more squared away.  Just as our prostate is neatly packaged and squared away.  We are so squared away that sometimes we could think our vagus nerve travels at right angles around our body.  We are so interested in being squared away, we forgot to stop and ask for directions.  You know us guys. So, our vagus nerve never got connected to our genitalia.  Really, the male vagus nerve pathway pretty much follows the same path and connects to the same structures as the female, excluding the genitalia.

But, thanks to women, all is not lost!  The Vagus nerve is known as the “nerve of compassion.”  “In a series of controversial papers, physiological psychologist Steve Porges has made the case that the vagus nerve is the nerve of compassion, the body’s caretaking organ.”[7]  Although ours is not hooked up to our genitalia, we have many other ways of showing compassion.  When we compassionately say, “My heart goes out to you,” we aren’t kidding.  The vagus nerve is connected to many of our anatomical structrues, including the heart.  Perhaps women feel compassion more “deeply” than men simply because of this connection at the cervix.

Note that we have three major nerve pathways in the area of the cervix: pelvic, hypogastric and now the vagus nerve pathways.  It is the stimulation of this area, along with the others, that creates what Dr. Barbara Keesling calls The Super Sexual Orgasm.[8]  It could also be called an Optimal Blended orgasm.  We have all four major nerve pathways being stimulated sending impulses to the brain.  But, be careful.  There are some areas around the cervix where the “skin,” or epithelial tissue, is only one cell thick!  It can be easily damaged.  And guys, with the woman on top, gravity pulls her cervix down, so you can save your money on Enzyte.

In her book, The Super Sexual Orgasm, she describes this orgasm as being something much more different that a vaginal orgasm and believe me it is!  The likable thing about her book is that it gave exercises for women to become more comfortable with their own sexuality and with their partner.  It is this comfortability with our sexuality that allows for these orgasms to occur.  That brain of ours is so cluttered up with a bunch of garbage, it just automatically shuts down our pleasure no matter how much energy we are sending it.  Our thoughts, even the ones we don’t know we have, do a lot of controlling in our lives and especially in our sex lives.  And gentlemen, it is a part of our job to help our partner become more comfortable with her sexuality as we become more comfortable with our own.  And make her comfortable with who we are.

So what is the bottom line?  Women have a greater capacity for generating this electrochemical energy than men.  They have at least 14 structures and areas, served by four major nerve pathways where we have 7 structures and areas served by three major nerve pathways.  We exclude the hypogastric and vagus nerve connection in the uterus because the stimulation may be secondary, rather than primary.  This energy, when released does work and work over time is power.  That is a simple engineering definition of power.  And it can be believed by some to be the power that alters our brain and body chemistry to make us better human beings, to raise us to the altitude of genius, by “building the muscles” of our consciousness.

There may be more structures in the female genitalia that are “activated” in a secondary fashion: that is not by direct contact, such as those in the uterus.  The female genitalia are amazing and we have just begun the scientific journey.

One last note: the most important sex organ is the brain.  All of these above won’t work as intended without the involvement of the brain and the mind!  We will continue to discuss the impact of this organ as we continue.  For example, the nerve endings in the uterus are not mechanically stimulated, but they work anyway.

So they have it.  Power.  How do we get it?  It is a gift that we must be willing to receive, just as her love is a gift to us.  How this is transmitted, we can only guess.  It is idiopathic.  (Don’t you love that word: “idiopathic?”) It is as though some of this energy escapes the unshielded parts of the nerve’s axon, or trunk and it goes through her vaginal wall onto and through the thin skin of our penis, our wand of enlightenment, enabling us and providing us with an experience, beyond our wildest dreams.  Or perhaps it is excess energy from the interstitial cells of Cajal.  Then again, it may simply be our own love-energy, reflecting off the polished mirror of her love.  If for no other reason than this fantastic anatomy and physiology, this capacity to generate this energy and power, women deserve to be treated with much more dignity and respect than has been afforded them over the centuries.  It is time for a change.  Let’s hope we make it.


[1]  The Story of V, Catherine Blackledge, Rutgers University Press, 2004

[2] The Naked Woman: A Study of the Female Body, Morris, D., Thomas Dunne Books, New York, NY, 2005

[3] The Story of V, Catherine Blackledge, Rutgers University Press, 2004, p.60

[4] The Role of Urethra in Female Orgasm, Ernest Gräfenberg, M.D., 1950, International Journal of Sexology

[5] Identification of a vaginal pacemaker: An immunohistochemical and morphometric study, A. Shafik, A. A. Shafik, O. El Sibai and I. A. Shafik, 2007 Journal of Obstetrics & Gynaecology Jan 2007, Vol. 27, No. 5, Pages 485-488: 485-488.

[6] Interstitial Cells of Cajal in Erectile Dysfunction, Shafik, O. El-Sibai 2006, Arch Androl 52: 255-262   Vol. 52, No. 4

[7] Born to be Good, Keltner, D., W. W. Norton & Company, 2009 p. 228

[8] The Super Sexual Orgasm, Keesling, Barbara, Harper Collins, 1997

Normal, Uncommon Sexual Responses.

August 16, 2011

To write about sexual love, I had to learn a little about sex. Actually, like most of us, I put the cart before the horse. I was more interested in sex and then had my epiphany on love. I’m a guy. Waddaya expect? First, love is not necessary to engender any sexual response! Just because it’s sex, doesn’t mean it’s love. One woman confided in me, she had an orgasm while being raped! Most guys will tell you they have orgasms with women they don’t even know, or like or love. If you pinch yourself on the arm, the response is pain. A response is a response is a response. However, guys will also tell you their response is so much better, even when they only think they are in love.

Most sexual responses are pleasurable. (The Kundalini can be excruciatingly painful.) Therefore we think that sex is about pleasure, and for most of us, it is. But, when we think of sex as a mechanism for transmitting love, it can be ecstatic, where pleasure is a by-product or side effect, and orgasm becomes a non-event! We must crawl before we walk and run before we fly. These responses are simply presented as a matter for your awareness and acceptance. Let’s look at some of the pleasurable responses for which our bodies have the capacity, but we don’t fully enjoy. There are probably many more.

Orgasm

Uncommon? Most guys don’t have a bit of problem with this one. But, according to a study related by Dr. Laura Berman, about 50% of the sexually active women in this country have never experienced an orgasm. This would indicate it is an uncommon experience.

So what is an orgasm? Freud said there were two kinds: clitoral and vaginal. We’ll see how full of crap he was in a minute. Bioenergetics also claims two kinds: climax – involuntary muscle contractions in the genitalia, and orgasm – involuntary muscle contractions all over the body. First, “climax” is a lousy word because it implies “the end” when it may be just the beginning. But, yes, there are involuntary muscle contractions associated with orgasm.

To see how many kinds there are, we need to look at our sexual anatomy. Both men and women have three major nerve pathways from the genitalia to the spinal column: pudendal, pelvic and hypogastric. Women have an additional pathway, the vagus nerve pathway, connected to the cervix and uterus, wandering around her body and directly connecting to the brain. If we think of sex as “the mental and/or physical stimulation of nerve endings, creating electrochemical energy, resulting in pleasurable sensations in the genitalia and other sexual responses,” then orgasm is a function of nerve stimulation. Partially.

With women having four major pathways, we could say there are 24 possible combinations of stimulation (Factoral 4 = 24) therefore 24 different kinds of orgasm. Men, with three major pathways then have the possibility of six. But there are 14 different structures and sensitive areas in the female genitalia (that we know of today) connected to these pathways, and 7 in the male genitalia. If we took all the possible numerical combinations for women, it would be about ½ billion different kinds of orgasm. It is pretty silly to argue about it and our belief systems control our responses anyway. So, let’s just say there are little ones and big ones.

Multiple and Sequential Orgasms

Male orgasm is generally associated with ejaculation. Not always! Men may experience a series of pleasurable vibrations in the penis without losing rigidity or ejaculate! A better description would be “penis buzzing.” This may occur in 5 to 10 second bursts, or longer, during intercourse. It may also occur after orgasm, when flaccid, lasting from a few minutes to a few hours. The latter can be quite disconcerting.

Masters and Johnson described “four phases” of the sexual process, the last, “refractory phase,” following orgasm. Men lose tumescence and it takes from a few minutes to a few hours to regain it. (It doesn’t have to be a stiffie. Workable chubbies also do the job.) Women more easily may have multiple orgasms than men, but we aren’t out of the running! As long as he keeps going, she may keep coming!

The difference between multiple and sequential orgasms is simply the time interval between orgasms. If a man stops after orgasm, without “after-play,” then the woman’s body also goes through a refractory period and we have to start all over.

Ejaculatory Orgasms

Both men and women have a prostate gland, the source of ejaculate. The male prostate is neatly snuggled up against the bladder, encased in the prostatic capsule. The female prostate is a collection of ducts and glands ranging from around 30 to over 100, scattered along the urethra, generally in Caucasian women, bunched up toward the front (opening) of the urethra.

Fig. 1.  The female Prostate with urethral opening to right
Fig. 1. Female prostate with opening of urethra to right.

Of the 50% of sexually active women who have orgasms, only 10 to 40% (depending on which study you read) will ejaculate. There are indications in Rwanda, “all” the women ejaculate. Although a very small portion of those that do not ejaculate may have medical problems preventing it, it is suggested most of the preventative mechanism is in our minds. In the 1600’s in France, women stopped ejaculating as a birth control mechanism. It didn’t work. (See The Bible and Female Ejaculatory Orgasms.) Since the ejaculatory orgasm is about ten times more pleasurable than non-ejaculatory orgasms, that was quite a sacrifice! The Church stopped promoting female ejaculation as a mechanism for conception after 1784, when artificial insemination was proven. It was too much fun for the ladies.

Orgasmic Vaginal Discharge (OVD)

Although this usually also occurs with orgasm, when it occurs, it may also occur in combination with female ejaculation. The prostate gland will secrete, or ejaculate, about 5 to 10 cc’s of prostatic fluid through the urethra. OVD is a copious flow through the vagina of unknown origin and composition. There is no science on this. Many scientists are still arguing over whether or not women can ejaculate. Let them argue. Women will still ejaculate.

There is a technique in Tantric sex for increasing orgasmic flow called, Amitra. I do not know if this pertains to ejaculation or OVD. Not all women exhibit this. The ones who have confided in me say this is just what they do when they have orgasms, and it has been that way since the first one.

Orgasmic Bioluminescence

This is when one or both parties glow (actually emit photons) on orgasm. A shamanic breathing ritual, called “Dragons Fire/Breath,” produces a glow in the practitioner. It is possible that during the orgasmic plateau phase of intercourse, the partner’s breathing mimics this practice, producing the glowing results. Also, it is possibly a function of excess Adenosine Tri Phosphate (ATP) that changes into photons, just like in fireflies.

Transcendent Sex

This will take a blog by itself! Briefly, it is an altered state of consciousness created by altered brain chemistry. There are many disciplines to train the mind and body for this experience, but sometimes, it just happens. Dr. Jenny Wade’s book, Transcendent Sex, lists most of these forms along with the following observations:

· Sexual techniques and mechanics have no bearing on transcendence.
· Transcendence may occur between couples without sexual congress.
· Orgasm is not a causal factor. It may occur without, before during or after orgasm, and orgasm becomes a non-event.
· Sexual abuse is not a causal factor.
· Transcendence may occur in the later years of a marriage or on a one-night stand.
· It “transcends” religious beliefs and sexual orientation.
· It is not a guarantee of “true love,” nor should it be a goal in sexual love. It is just something that happens, sometimes.

Our “transformation” or growth in consciousness from sexual love may also be a function of altered brain chemistry. Transcendence” may be thought of as temporary, where Transformation is more or less permanent. Physical work, or work outs at a gym, grow our muscles. Education (may?) grow our brains (or brainwash us). Love grows our consciousness and sexual love beats th’ hell out of sitting cross-legged on a mountain top for 15 or 20 years. This will be continued in another blog.

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Guys, why should we grow our consciousness? Most of the 500 wealthiest men in America interviewed by Napoleon Hill for his book, Think and Grow Rich, mentioned sexual love as the mechanism that transformed them, giving them access to infinite intelligence and enabling them to be millionaires. Edward Leedskalnin, the guy with a 4th grade education, built Coral Castle, now in Homestead, Florida, out of limestone blocks weighing 14 tons, having the construction precision that matches the Pyramids and Machu Picchu! His love was unrequited! Yes, there are advantages to love.

Copyright Art Noble 2011

www.thesacredfemale.com

Interview with Richard Andrews – Part 2.

August 14, 2011

(Richard Andrews is the main character in The Sacred Female. It is just a fun trip to interview him. Go here for Part 1.

Host: Hi, Rich. Welcome back.

Rich: Thank you. Good to be back.

Host: When we parted last, you were going to tell us about bogus beliefs. Just what do you mean by a “bogus belief?”

Rich: We are told many; many things about sex that just aren’t true. When be believe them, it seems like our bodies respond in accord with our beliefs, limiting us in many ways.

Host: What do you mean by that?

Rich: As an example, when I was a college kid, there was an article in Time magazine titled, “Men ejaculate. Women Lactate.” Just by that title alone, from an authoritative voice, it puts a bogus belief in our heads. If women believe it, they don’t ejaculate, depriving themselves of a lot of pleasure. If men believe it, and their partner ejaculates, they think it is urine or something and get bent out of shape.[1]

Host: I can understand that.

Rich: Does that mean you don’t “approve?”

Host: Not exactly. I’d never heard of it before I read your story.

Rich: That’s the whole damn problem! We are just ignorant about sexual responses and even how badly we are locked up about our sexuality!

Host: I’ll agree with you on that! Now, tell us about the glow that came from her head when you , uh, when you er…

Rich: Had an orgasm? You can’t even say it! Sheesh! Well, it wasn’t just from her head. Her whole body was glowing, lighting up the room. At first, I thought I was hallucinating. Then I thought the rods and cones in my eyeballs had opened up, letting more light in. I had, and have no idea what was going on. But it happened! She lit up like a firefly in mating season with a white light.[2]

Host: Amazing!

Rich: That was only the beginning! We experienced transcendent sex!

Host: What’s that?

Rich: Science defines transcendence as an alteration of brain chemistry. I guess our activity was really sending out nerve impulses that produced a lot of chemicals, altering our brain chemistry.

Host: Is this like an “acid trip?”

Rich: I don’t know. Never been on one. But it was as if we were reduced to our essences: two points of light, that came together as one. It was the most beautiful experience in my life!

Host: Whoa! That’s fantastic!

Rich: Good word: fantastic. We hear about all this stuff and think people are making it up. Well, we aren’t. It’s real.

Host: So, bottom line is some of the myths are bogus and some are real. How do you tell the difference?

Rich: Simple. Anything demonizing or demeaning to women goes in the BS pile. Anything of great, “fantastic,” beauty goes into the reality pile.

Host: Does this mean that all women are these fantastic, wonderful creatures?

Rich: It is my opinion they all have the capacity to be. But, we’ve been putting them down for thousands of years. Sometimes, very hard! They react, the same way we would, and it’s not nice.

Host: One last thing, Rich. It the story, you describe a new awareness that you have. As a two-part question, how would you describe it and where do you think it comes from?

Rich: There are many names for it: transformation, awakening and evolving to name three. I prefer “growth of consciousness.” Consider it as an extension of having our brain chemistry altered on a more permanent basis. We exercise our muscles when we work or work-out; we exercise our brains through education. But we don’t exercise our consciousness much at all.

Host: OK, Rich. Where does it come from?

Rich: That’s easy. Love. [3]

(Dead air)

Host: You have left me speechless; not a good thing for a host. This is a lot to digest and though I really enjoy interviewing you, right now I’m glad we are about out of time. I hope we can get you back in the near future?

Rich. Glad to accommodate you.

Host: Thank you again. And now, a word from our sponsor.

[1] The Bible and Female Ejaculatory Orgasms

[2] A shamanic breathing ritual produces a glow in the practitioner. It is possible that during the orgasmic plateau phase of intercourse, the partner’s breathing mimics this practice, producing the glowing results. Also, it is possibly a function of excess Adenosine Tri Phosphate (ATP) that changes into photons.

[3] What is Love?
Copyright Art Noble 2011
http://www.thesacredfemale.com.

What is Spiritual Sexuality and Why? (In English)

June 12, 2011

Lets first take a look at what passes for spiritual sexuality today. And all this sounds very mystical and strange! There are many words I don’t understand, but those I do, have much in common with my belief system. (You can skim the next three paragraphs.) It is really much less complex than this. All it takes is that nasty, four-letter word, “love”. Is there anything more spiritual than love?

In Vajrayana Buddhism, tantric sexual practice (Sanskrit: Maithuna, cf. Tibetan:Yab-Yum) is one aspect of the last stage of the initiate’s spiritual path, where s/he, having already realised the voidness of all things, attains enlightenment and perpetual bliss.

Mantak Chia’s teachings about qi and cosmology are similar to the Taoist instructor Hua-ching Ni. In contrast to Ni’s writings however, Chia’s books lack discussion of philosophy, ethics or everyday practical advice. The system he presents is a narrowly focused system of qigong rooted firmly in neidan However, Mantak does talk about internal alchemy as a part of healing and applies this in his sexuality.

Guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, later known as Osho, used his version of tantra, neotantra, in combination with breathing techniques, bio-energy, yoga and massage in some of the groups at his ashram. He is the author of many books on meditation, taoism, buddhism and mysticism, and at least six on tantra. One of them is Tantra, The Supreme Understanding, in which he unpacks the verses of the Song of Mahamudra, by Tilopa

A lot of the words up there, I can’t pronounce and don’t understand! There are also Shamanic Sex and Sex of the Tarot, each disciplines to reach the same goal of enlightenment and bliss. Guess what? Love is a discipline as well! The bottom line is that love is a spectrum of energy of which sexual love only occupies a small part, as light occupies a small part of the electromagnetic spectrum. However, in order to love, we must get our egos and preconceived notions out of the way.

Sexual love is erotic. We cannot learn about anything with ears plugged and eyes closed. So, take a deep breath, grit your teeth, and get ready! Mantack talked about “internal alchemy” and Osho talked about bio-energy. It is actually electrochemical energy. In my radio show, “Female Sexual Anatomy – For Guys!”, I compare the female genialia to a power plant! They do produce some energy! There is even a diagram for you to trace the “transmission lines” (nerve trunks).

We know this energy somehow activates certain genes on our DNA, creating proteins (Hormones, enzymes, etc). Some genes. Science is primarly interested in dopamine and serotonin for pleasure and oxytocin and vasopressin for bonding. Genes are a sequence of base pair (rungs on the twisted ladder) on a strand of DNA. There are 3.1 Billion base pair. Genes occupy only 90 million base pair, leaving 3.01 billion base pair unaccounted for. Essentially, our map of the human genome is as accurate as Amerigo Vespucci’s map of the New World in 1507! So, it is relatively easy to blame whatever is happening on “genes” or other segments of our DNA we know very little about.

Historically, I am not alone in this view. Nahminides (?) in The Holy Letter (a 13th Century marriage manual for the Kabbalah) states the manual is “to produce learned sons”. Nahminides also suggests an attitude of reverence, not only for the partner, but for the act. One could consider this involves a change in DNA to make the brain a more effective organ. One cannot give what one does not have. In Sanskrit, the word for the vagina is yoni, or “the sacred place”. Considering other ancient sexual texts, it all makes sense. Also, ancient sexual artifacts have the “unknown” double spiral engraved upon them. I would suggest this is symbolic of the double helix containing our genes. Part of enlightenment is not complete technical understanding, just the general idea. Is this a correct interpretation of the scant facts? I don’t know and I don’t care. Something wondrous and amazing happens and that is what counts!

So, exactly what does happen and what is its value? First, we must clarify that the various sexual responses are not a function of love. A man does not have to be in love with a woman to have an orgasm and vica versa. Physiological responses are not necessarliy an indication of love, any more than the knee jerk response is an indicator of love. As the responses increase in levels of pleasure, what we are looking at is “hot sex”.

As I said before, love is this energy stuff. To be imbued with it, we simply have to open ourselves to it. I can’t open you, and you can’t open me. It is strictly an inside job. I envision my self with a door on my back. I open it, and the love-energy flows in. But, the inside door handle is chained to my ego. Drat! This is what the great spiritual teachers have been telling us for centuries: “Get your damn ego out of the way!” And THIS is where the discipline comes in.

So, what are the real benefits of allowing this energy into us, and sacrificing our ego-based identity? Some will say it is transcending the material world, living at a higher plane of existance. Buddhism speaks of perpetual bliss and enlightenment. Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich said, “The combination of love, sex and romance can lift a man from mediocrity to the altitude of genius.” For each of us, the results will probably be different, but a lot better than where we are now!

I’ve thought about closing metaphors like, “love is the salt and pepper on your eggs,” but that just makes them taste better. The one I like best is comparing sex to gunpowder. Having sex is like taking a handfull of gunpowder and putting it on the floor and then lighting it. We get a flash and a WOOSH! If we have the discipline to put into a casing with a cap and fuse, seal it and place it properly wh have an explosion with higher brisance. Better is bringing love into our life with reverence and respect for our partner. It is like turning on the light in a darkened room. It lets us see what we have never seen before.

Copyright 2010 Art Noble
http://www.thesacredfemale.com


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