THE WAR ON WOMEN? 

August 6, 2015

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Most (damn near all) Western Homo sapiens sapiens (us) are whack jobs who can screw up an anvil with a rubber mallet!  Both genders, including me!

I began my research into sexology about 15 years ago to find out what was going on in our bodies after an awesome sexual experience.  It took 10 years just to find out the name: transcendent sex.  I got all the way down to the genetic level in our bodies without answers until I threw love into the pot.  Then it happened.  It worked!

I looked at love with an engineer’s eye: a different perspective.  Love is an energy spectrum impacting us at the genetic level.  It at least impacts our epigenome, and who knows after that?  Erotic love is apparently the most powerful because of the passion or amplitude of the energy we are transmitting.  Twenty-five hundred years ago, the Greeks defined Eros, the god of erotic love, as one who endowed us with creative powers and the ability to bring order out of chaos.  Around the time of Plato, Eros was diminished to the god of sexual pleasure.

One of the things I learned is sexology is very subjective.  Everybody is out to promote their view.  Me too.  The difference I claim is, I focus on love—attributes and behaviors—along with our biology.  I recognize there are no biological absolutes and we each have our own individual uniqueness.  I admit you are your own best “sex expert,” once you divest yourself of 5,000 years of fear-based BS creating your epigenome and screwing up your genes.  That is the tough part.

So, what is this war on women?  Face it!  We live in a greed based patriarchy.  We are given “standards of normalcy” from patriarchal authority.  What I have learned is that when I put anyone down, I am putting me down, which is where this authority wants me.  I don’t belong down!  Misogyny is not about putting women down.  It is about keeping men down!  The war on women is but a strategy in the war on love.  Until we come together in love, recognizing what fantastic creatures we and others are in their own right, “they” win!

What if?

February 15, 2015

What if   This isn’t even speculation. It is pure imagination!
What if… there were a field of energy soooo big, the word “infinite” just began to describe the number of frequencies in it? A field is just a mathematical construct where we draw lines to represent the way we perceive the energy flows. If we constructed a hologram of a horseshoe magnetic field, it wold have three dimensions in space. If we added the Newtonian linear construct of time, we would have four dimensions. Our new, huge energy field is n-dimensional. We can’t comprehend it, but we can imagine it.

Now let’s say, due to the law of entropy, or enthalpy, or some other phenomena, a few packets of energy slow down and begin to form matter. The matter grows and because of gravity or some other force, begins compressing on itself. It attracts more energy into it, and becomes as a black hole in our huge energy field. Finally, all this energy can’t stand being compressed, and like a massive atomic bomb, goes “boom.” The Big Bang from a different point of view.

This energy and matter, expand from the explosion. Woosh! We have our universe. Energy is neat stuff. At the sub-atomic level it travels in packets when we look at it. When we look at it differently, it travels in waves. Regardless of how we look at it, it has two other properties: it can be transmitted and it can transform. Focus sunlight (photons) through a magnifying glass on a piece of paper, and light energy turns into heat energy.

Now let’s take another look at this matter stuff. Most of it is just slowed down energy and space. Should we go as deep as we can today into matter, at the sub-atomic level, we find a bunch of weird particles: quarks and stuff. What’s neat is some little tinsey bits of energy are bouncing around in there, doing something with the quarks? This energy is called Zero Point Field (ZPF) and had to come from the Big Bang. We humans are matter too. There are those who call us “star seed.” I guess that is as far as they can imagine. Stars go back to the Big Bang. Maybe we are “Big Bang seed?”

Since our original field is so incomprehensibly huge, there is nothing stopping energy slowing down at some other point or points, compressing and going boom? Waddya know? Another universe. A parallel universe? A Perpendicular universe? Maybe we call it an alternate dimension? What’s in a name?

Now, let’s give this incomprehensibly huge energy field, from which our ZPF originated, a name. We like names. Let’s call it “love.” Indigenous peoples of North America call it “The great Spirit.” In South America, Quetzalcoatl. Think also of Agape, Akasha, ApAaga and Amore. There are all kinds of names. Holy Shit! That means everything, including us, is made of love!

So what is so special about us? I really don’t know? Could it be because we have a larger genome with more base pair than any other living creature? (Except Norwegian Spruce, Whisk Ferns and some amphibians. Frogs only have 13 chromosomes or with the copy, 26 where we have 23 and with the copy, 46. The spruce has a dozen and and the DNA is repetitive. Maybe this is why girls kiss frogs? ) And how do we define living? Is it because we critters from amoeba on up, have a bit of excess or different frequency of energy? Could it be we have a greater capacity to focus love than animals? I look at my pup wagging her tail, and observe we do not appear to be using this capacity! And why is it animals and plants have this energy and rocks don’t appear to have it? Or is that we cannot perceive it, or have been diminished so we cannot perceive it?

What if then, everything was all made out of the same stuff? Just different forms determined by different frequencies? If what makes us so special is we are given a greater capacity and ability to receive and transmit love, to focus love, then my observation is we are doing a lousy job! We talk about being a part of the conscious mind, which may be this incomprehensibly large energy field, from which everything comes. Yet we disregard ourselves even in the form of another unique likeness of ourselves?

Of course, this is only one, imaginary point of view. But Einstein said imagination is more important than knowledge? And really, what difference does it make what point of view we have? What is important is that we see and let love: let love flow through us so we may see. It is really very simple. But sometimes not easy.

Intimate Relationships

February 7, 2015

I have now three criteria for intimate relationships

  1. A mutual desire for unity
  2. Lotsa love.
  3. Great sex.

This is exactly the reverse order in which I studied these things, but I’ve always done things backwards.

Unity: oneness with

It starts at home, with me. It comes from loving myself. This is different from narcissism and being completely selfish. It is more like taking care of one’s self: physically, emotionally and spiritually. That is going to vary for each of us, so I’m not going to get into absolutes.

Once we know pretty much who we really are, rather than what society and others have told us who we are, then we are ready to receive or look for someone with whom we can share our life. Contrary to popular opinion, it is always going to be my life, just as it is always going to be her life. “Gears meshing smoothly” is one metaphor. Two gears are always going to be two gears, meshing to make things work. But both have this desire to blend and mesh THEIR lives into a life together. Pick your own metaphor.

Lotsa Love

You all know by now, I look at love as an energy spectrum, said energy being delivered through the heart rather than the head. This too, has to be mutual, though it will vary from time to time around the spectrum. One can love another to near infinite heights, and it won’t work if not reciprocated. Even when reciprocated it won’t work without the desire for unity. Love as a feeling comes and goes. The energy is always there. How we let it in to us and focus it on another is a different story.

Great Sex

This is another one up for grabs. My views on great sex have changed significantly. Great sex can come from quickies in the presence of love, just as a reminder you are together as a pair of gears meshing. It can be had in those sessions lasting for hours or with transcendent sexual experiences. The definition of great sex is an individual subjective thing. I think it may have more to do with our desire to give ourselves and our responses to one another than looking for a response from the other.

In the beginning of my sexual life it was about notches in my belt. I got so many my pants fell down. Then it was about pleasing her. I was wearying of the continual chase. Figure out how to please one and I wouldn’t have to chase as much. Then I fell in love and transmitted that love sexually. It was entirely different: ecstasy as compared to pleasure. It didn’t last either. I instinctively knew the desire for unity was not there, but when ahead anyway, kidding myself.

Now, I’ve decided to reverse my order and go for mutual desire for unity, then love and the great sex will follow. This is not to say I won’t break this order of things, but unity will always be primo! We’ll see how this works.

WE HAVE SEX WITH OUR HEAD. WE MAKE LOVE WITH OUR HEART.

January 23, 2015
   There are many of us I have seen on Facebook who are aware of what is really going on in this world: Flouride, Chemtrails, Geoengineering, economic manipulation, corruption, policy substituting for law, GMO’s etc.  We post these things on FB.  The question is no longer, “what are they doing.”  The question is what are we going to do about it?  I don’t know.  You do! For me, the answer lays in the field of love.

I got into the field of sexual biology to find out what was happening in my body as the result of erotic love.  I call it an “epigenetic event.”  That was the conclusion I came to.  It doesn’t make any difference what I call it, or even if it is an “epigenetic event.” Something wondrous does happen.  I simply chose a path away from all the woo-speak and double talk.

I can view the “Placebo effect” as an epigenetic event.  When the Doctor tells us we have such-and-such and hands us a pill, we trust him or her.  Trust is an attribute of love.  It exists in our relationships with others to some degree or another.  I trust that you will read this.  I also look at NDE’s where the party changes as epigenetic events. There are many ways of this occurring, and sex is not the only one.

I believe most of us are whack jobs in our own wondrous way.  Many were wounded by life’s experiences.  Some have healed and some have not.  It makes no difference.  We all have abilities beyond what is considered “normal.”  I teach.

The bottom line for me is I think most of us like sex.  A lot of us are having sex fairly regularly.  All I ask is you tweak your attitude a little and see what happens. Forget about this or that technique, or this or that mechanism of control, particularly of your body.  Get out of your head!  Go into your heart!  (My experience is the sex is much better that way.)  If you think you are in your heart, you probably aren’t.  I can tell you guys you probably have no concept of what a fantastic creature that woman lying next you is!  (Once she gets out of her head too.)

Our bodies are fantastic machines.  The heart is a fantastic organ and it does a hell of a lot more for us than pump blood. I think about primal man who didn’t have the centuries of conditioning we do.  It is a job to get rid of it.  It is all in our head!  By-pass it! Go through your heart!

I have no idea of what your results will be.  Your DNA is unique.  But we will be able to DO something other than post on Facebook.  One of the functions of the early god Eros was through us to create.  (Plato changed that.)  But we knew. We were told.  We were brainwashed.  We forgot!  We must create again.

WE HAVE SEX WITH OUR HEAD. WE MAKE LOVE WITH OUR HEART.

January 9, 2015

There arAttributes of Lovee many of us I have seen on Facebook, etc., who are aware of what is really going on in this world: Flouride, Chemtrails, Geoengineering, economic manipulation, corruption, policy substituting for law, etc. We post these things on FB. The question is no longer, “what are they doing.” The question is what are we going to do about it? I don’t know. You do! For me, the answer lays in the field of love.

I got into the field of sexual biology to find out what was happening in my body as the result of erotic love. I call it an “epigenetic event.” That was the conclusion I came to. It doesn’t make any difference what I call it, or even if it is an “epigenetic event.” Something wondrous does happen. I simply chose a path away from all the woo-speak and double talk.

I can view the “Placebo effect” as an epigenetic event. When the Doctor tells us we have such-and-such and hands us a pill, we trust him or her. Trust is an attribute of love. It exists in our relationships with others to some degree or another. I trust that you will read this. I also look at NDE’s where the party changes as epigenetic events. There are many ways of this occurring, and sex is not the only one.

I believe most of us are whack jobs in our own wondrous way. Many were wounded by life’s experiences. Some have healed and some have not. It makes no difference. We all have abilities beyond what is considered “normal.” I am a teacher.

The bottom line for me is I think most of us like sex. A lot of us are having sex fairly regularly. All I ask is you tweak your attitude a little and see what happens. Forget about this or that technique, or this or that mechanism of control, particularly of your body. Get out of your head! Go into your heart! (My experience is the sex is much better that way.) If you think you are in your heart, you probably aren’t. I can tell you guys you probably have no concept of what a fantastic creature that woman lying next you is! (Once she gets out of her head too.)

Our bodies are fantastic machines. The heart is a fantastic organ and it does a hell of a lot more for us than pump blood. I think about primal man who didn’t have the centuries of conditioning we do. It is a job to get rid of it. It is all in our head! By-pass it! Go through your heart!

I have no idea of what your results will be. Your DNA is unique. But we will be able to DO something other than post on Facebook, or in blogs. One of the functions of the early god Eros was through us to create. (Plato changed that.) But we knew. We were told. We were brainwashed. We forgot! We must create again.

I hope you will find and friend others so we may work as a unit… around the world.

Love is Unconditional; Relationships are Conditional.

December 14, 2014

Why do we enter into relationships? Sometimes it is to use others for our own ego based desires. As in business relationships where going in, it is your desire to screw over your partner financially. Sometimes it is a desire to transmit love. It is immaterial with whom or what we desire to love. Many of us love our pets without erotic desire. I say this to indicate a boundary on the love as well as the relationship. We can love many without erotic desire, and erotically desire many without love. Sometimes I think we are all whack jobs.

Too many times we deceive ourselves into thinking love and relationship are synonymous. They are not, but I am a product of the culture and still have this hangover. Relationships have conditions. I show the polysexual map here that to some degree shows the many conditions placed on different polysexual relationships. It is too complex for me. Were I to draw mine, it would be an ever expanding circle with the words “Her” and “Him” in it.

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One of the principles (guidelines) in relationship to which I adhere is unity. My vision is limited. I cannot figure out how unity can be maintained in polygamous or androgynous relationships or mixin’ and matchin’ This is not to say others cannot. I don’t know. It is tough enough one-on-one to maintain a monogamous relationship. Discussions (arguments). Eternal stresses! Mother’s or Father’s-in-law, or natural!

When we love from our heart and soul, the love is unconditional. Love is energy which can neither be created nor destroyed. It never goes away. The nature of the relationship determines the level of passion in the relationship. Well, that is my view anyway. When conditions and sometimes expectations, are not met in a relationship, the relationship begins to dissolve, but the love remains. (Expectations are un-verbalized conditions. Best to get them into the open.) Even though the relationship is breaking down and the passion diminishing, we still love the person and wonder why and drive ourselves nuts. I came to the conclusion it is OK to still love them, because I do whether I like them or not or even want to continue the relationship?

On one hand, this is where couples counselors make a lot of money, and many times they are worth it. Relationships have been restored to growth many times, but that is a function of the individuals in the relationship and whether or not they can agree to live by the conditions set in the relationship. The point is love and relationship are two different things that are amazingly fantastic when working together and not worth a damn when they are not.

“Sex Experts” and Sexual Biology

October 29, 2014

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It is my opinion there is no such thing as a “sex expert.” Various experts will try and tell you, “If you do this then that will happen.” Or they will tell you, “ALL men or women are like this or that.” I will agree that some generalities may be applicable in some cases at certain times. Mostly I find nothing but authoritative opinion based on limited experience projected onto men and women as universal truths. My response is, “Bullshit!”

When I began my research under the guidance of Dr. Beverly Whipple, one of the great lessons I learned is “all women are different.” So are men. I was acutely aware of her scientific statements: “the data suggest….” And, “it appears that…” This gives us only generalities that are applicable to that specific and tiny study population.

I have experienced and observed a relatively broad range of orgasmic experiences. I have anecdotal evidence of more. I have also learned not to limit ourselves. Just because I don’t know about a specific experience you may have doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Just because you don’t have one of the ones I describe, or have it differently than I describe, only means you don’t have it or have it differently. You are unique where you are right now.

I will say I believe our orgasmic experiences are a function of our unique DNA coding and that is impacted by our epigenome. Much of our epigenome is created by fear. It is essentially like wrapping up our genes with duct tape so they cannot be expressed, or produce the amino acids and thereby proteins that create various sexual responses in our bodies, including pleasure. Just because I believe it doesn’t make it true or a fact. It appears to work.

It also appears “love” un-wraps the “duct tape” from our genes allowing them to express or shut down in cases where they are not supposed to work. This is why I view love as an energy spectrum. I have no idea which frequency or frequencies act on anybody’s genes to produce the varying responses. Neither does anybody else. I can only tell you about a few responses I have experienced, observed or about which I have been advised. I can tell you about things in the human body that appear at a gross level to be common or in some cases unique.

For example, some women as part of their orgasmic experience, will have a clear, copious emission (250 -500+ ml) through the vagina. This is natural for them. Others may have a clear copious emission through the urethra (125 + ml) in addition to the milky emission from the female prostate (5- 15 ml). It doesn’t make any difference. As a guy, my job, our job, is to accept and appreciate what ever response she offers. We also need to listen to her and her body with our heart.

Some women have no control over their responses. They are going to respond the way they do whether we love them or they love us or not. Our love for them simply makes them feel safe, or confident in knowledge we will accept their response with gratitude, no matter what it is. WE ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR RESPONSE! WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR MAKING THEM FEEL SAFE ENOUGH SO THEIR BODY WILL RESPOND. Our love for them un-wraps our genes. Their love for us un-wraps their genes.

Some of the fears we hold are buried so deeply in our sub-conscious we don’t even know we hold them. Love seems to work anyway. My opinion is that with love, we are each our own “sex experts,” and I only have one X-chromosome. I can only tell you of a few things that may happen and some of the things in our common history that appear to wrap up our genes. We are fantastic creatures. My wish is for each of us to grow into our fantastic selves.

Monogamy?

September 12, 2014

Poly Sex is a complex subject. We made it that way. I’ve broken through a lot of my culturally imposed ignorance, political constructs, and myth we are told to live in, to try and explain what was going on in my body. We are all products of Western culture, and many of us live by the same myths. The big one is “humans suck.” We are “shameful creatures, created in sin.” All kinds of crap! My research indicates a much different picture of our potential. We are fantastic!

One of the things I discovered is much of what we “know” about sex and male/female relationship is just opinion or consensus. Were actual current knowledge placed in a stack, it would be about 10 feet tall. When “everything” is known, the stack will reach beyond the stars. Another problem is most of the opinion is based on limited experience, with consensus by others of also limited experience. Though my experiences are beyond the current concept of “orgasm” I have learned there are far more than I can speak to from personal experience. All I ask is we take the limits off ourselves.

Though I have not always been so, I now consider myself “monogamous.” Formerly, “monogamous” was in that I had one “legal” wife, and a few forays on the side, but no affairs. I was so locked up, I never even had affairs with my wives! My first epiphany was ‘women are not for taking to bed, they are for waking up next to.’

I am also a cisgendered heterophile, which is science-speak for a a guy who likes girls. My research has blown my mind! I have found excellent reasons—or are they justifications—for my monogamy. I wanted to project this on to primal man. I have learned from people I trust, many indigenous cultures around the world in the recent past are polysexual: polyandry, polygamy, polyamorous. The Lakota were polyamorous. The Yaqui were polygamous. The aborigine of Australia practiced polyandry. The Inuit would offer a guest their wife as we would offer an electric blanket. It may have been polyandry in Sumeria that brought about the myth of the Sacred Prostitute? Awwwww, come on! Somewhere there’s gotta be a culture that was monogamous? The only thing I can think of is that “sex” was not the big deal in these cultures; it was the attitude. The way you treated each other was the big deal.

The Eastwood movie, Unforgiven, was really not too far off an expression of pioneer culture in this country. Women were scarce. Men who beat their wives were first “talked to,” then beaten and on the third time they disappeared. There wasn’t a 7 year waiting period in those days, so women would remarry. A little bit of history you won’t find in the text books.

Now it seems monogamy is a construct of a patriarchal civilization where women are chattel and wealth is passed on to the eldest son by the father. In primal, polysexual tribes, the concept of “wealth” did not exist. Children belonged to the mother or the tribe. (It takes a village!)

So, I have to ask myself is my monogamy a function of the Judeo-Christian construct in which I was raised? Then I look at Solomon with 300 wives, 1000 concubines, or whatever, and scratch my head? I read Gen.6:2 with a different eye and ask were our attitude changed would we not become as sons of God? Of course, the last question I ask is can I be satisfied with just one? From what I have discovered, absolutely, beyond the moral admonitions! So, as long as I am in a culture that by mouth professes it, why not? Let others do their thing. I’ll do mine.

Our Operative Conditioning

September 12, 2014

will.press_.lever_.for_.food_ When I started studying “sex” 15 years ago, I never thought it would open so many other fields, and provide radically different perspectives on darn near everything. When I learned a lot of women fake orgasms, I wondered why? I thought it might be a head game; not one that women played, but one that had been played on women. My research indicated I might be correct.

It was with recent insights I was able to put it together—at least in my mind. At birth, we are dependent on our parents for survival. As we grow, we accept their authority. This is assumed a “truth” going back to primal man, before civilization. One of the conditions not recognized or considered by anthropologists today is the “tribe”of primal man had to be interdependent for survival. Authority was transferred to the tribe as the child grew.

It is my thesis the primal child’s interdependent relationship with parents, the tribe and the world around the child-man was a function of love. When I look at the behaviors and attributes of love, they are applicable across the board to our fellow human beings and the world around us. And then, we got greedy! One man, later a group of men, decided they wanted more. To provide more, we (they) created “civilization.” Slowly, authority was transferred to this group we call kings and priests. Authority was maintained by fear, force and confusion. As language developed and became “written”, conditioning became easier. Language became a mechanism for operative conditioning.

The primary word we had to modify and redefine to make operative conditioning work was love. Today it is generally limited to boy/girl stuff and confused with sex, which is either for pleasure or procreation. Other words, once a respected part of man’s lexicon were denigrated and forbidden or vaguely redefined to confuse us. Other phrases have come into vogue that limit us.

Genetics is a field of study so complex, not even those who study it for a living fully understand it. My simplistic, even childlike view, indicates to me a number of things.

What we think based on our operative conditioning impacts us at the genetic level, probably by modifying our epigenome, i.e. creating histone tails and modifying methyl groups that prevent our genes from expressing, and,

This also affects our perception of every thing from colors to our life experiences.

Further, this epigenome may be, in full or part, transmitted in fetal development.

Ya gotta admit, this makes our operative conditioning a lot easier!

The nice thing about interdependence as it applied to primal man is he knew about love with out knowing he knew. Our best examples of those who love without knowing are infants and small children with Down’s syndrome. They just love. They haven’t been “worked on” by parental or outside operative conditioning…yet.

Back to women and their inability to enjoy an orgasmic experience, what are the head games we’ve played over the centuries that led many to this result? It would appear to me making women chattel at the dawn of civilization started our decline in intimate love. The various marriage and sexual “laws” in ancient Western history reinforced this. The big document in Western culture is the Malleus Maleficarum, which though I’ve never read in its entirety, impacted my perception of women at the subconscious level. The Myth of Lilith also impacted me and therefore my partners. However it is the last 200 to 300 years where most of the damage to both men and women is perpetrated.

It is my goal here only to point out the illegitimate origin of words and phrases with which we are burdened, as they may relate to erotic love. Erotic love appears to be the most powerful way in which our epigenome is positively impacted. After that, it is up to you.

MY MISSION STATEMENT:

August 7, 2014

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MISSION STATEMENT:

To provide couples with some tools which may lead to a lasting, interdependent relationship, from which growth may begin.

Interdependence.

All relationships go through dependent stages of development. Today, it seems most get stuck in dependency or co-dependency. It makes no difference if it is with a beloved, children, family, friends, neighbors or co-workers. I compare this process with the germination of a seed, and there are many ways in which a seed may germinate. Interdependence, then, is the sprouting of the seed. Just like trees, that is when we really begin to grow.

Why did I choose the field of “Sexual Biology?”

  1. I created the field and there is no one else here.

  2. I recognize the uniqueness of the individual and only provide information on various responses and how they may occur in the human body.

  3. I recognize the “mind boxes” into which modern man is placed and although I cannot remove them, I can tell you where they came from and you can remove them if you want.

  4. I used to think I was alone in my magnificent sexual experiences. Thanks to many of you, I now believe millions have these awesome experiences. I share mine along with those of others, and provide possible biological mechanisms for them. THEY ARE NATURAL AND NOT TO BE FEARED!

  5. I’m the only guy I know of that takes a hardcore look at love as a powerful energy spectrum (not mushy gushy stuff), breaks it down into general behaviors and attitudes, then gets into the positive impact on the human body at the genetic level. Doctors today tell us “sex is good for us.” Hell, I suggest it can even reverse the aging process, when we incorporate love in our sexual activities without all the bullshit!

  6. Then, I’m the only guy who says don’t believe me. Try it for yourself! Then you’ll believe me.

Bottom line is great sex isn’t going to hold intimate relationships together: love is!

Why Do I Have This Mission?

The truth is, damn if I know. I like to think it is because I’m selfish and want to live in a better world.


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