The connotation of “civilization” is modern, where we have technical and scientific advances almost daily. Our history is replete with technical and scientific advances but at a much slower pace. Yet, in terms of the word “civil,” primal man was far advanced in his humanity and civilization. Perhaps ‘society’ or ‘culture’ would be better words instead of civilization.
I have found those who study anthropology still regard love as a feeling or emotion, usually between man and woman. I regard love as a near infinite spectrum of energy, impacting us at the genetic level to produce the feelings or emotions. For me, it is easier to look at it this way and it explains many things. Therefore, I propose the primary unit of societies is the man-woman relationship. This is not to say heterosexual relationships were the only ones, but like today, the heterosexual population is much greater than the LGBT population. The difference is for primal man, it didn’t make any difference. Every member of the tribe had a job to do for the survival of the tribe. This was primarily exercising their talents.
The strength of the tribe was a function of their interdependence and synergy as grown by love. Today we see our woman as “belonging to” a man (or vice versa). Consider that in primal societies a woman “belonged with” a man as a mate and partner. The partnership was respected by other members of the tribe. Why?
At this time, science believes one out of 200,000 babies is born with the ability to see infrared with their eyes. They sense heat as well as color. Is it possible under proper circumstances others have this ability as well? I think so. We are only slightly enlarging the Visible Light Spectrum to include infrared. Could this be a function of love grown interdependence? Again, I think so. It makes it easier to pick up game hiding in the bushes.
Let’s look at the “science” we have on love. Not much. Dr. Helen fisher has looked at the impact of love as increasing blood flow to the brain with fMRI studies. She interprets this as love is a function of brain chemistry. Lynn McTaggart studies and promotes good intentions to change the environment. Masaru Emoto studied the change in the structure of ice crystals after water was bombarded with good, loving thoughts. Very few have loked at love as energy and when they do, they call it something else. The Heart Math Institute calls it energy, avoiding the word love.
Returning to the primal unit of man and woman or woman and man if you prefer, we see in our patriarchal system thousands of years of child abuse. “Spare the rod and spoil the child.” I was not spoiled… or was I? As I grew, my parents learned spanking me broke blood vessels in their hands. They then used Uncle Jack’s leather clothes brush. I have it as a keepsake. Today we psychologically “discipline” them which can be more damning. We teach them to “fit in.” Before we are old enough to be spanked, we accept. I wonder if teaching or allowing acceptance, with boundaries, would be better? The point being we are instructed to focus on our children rather than our mate. Divide and conquer.
In today’s relationships, married or not, there is a lot of resistance to change, even when change can meant growth. Well, hell! I like who I am right now. We generally don’t see that we might like ourselves better if we change a little. Primal man did not suffer the abuses we tolerate today.
Primal and indigenous man lived in an interdependent anarchy. Leaders arose for a specific task. Hunters, warriors, healers were each unique in their innate talents. Acceptance is an attribute of love, as are the boundaries established by self-love. The primal unit of the tribe was the couple. We hear from anthropologists, that “open relationships” were the norm, or “serial monogamy” was the norm. I suggest these authors are projecting their belief system and life style onto primal man. They have no knowledge of the interdependence’s synergy or genetic changes that may come from love. They do have credentials, which gives them more “authority” to express their opinion. I have only experience.