I recently read The Holy Letter, a 13th Century document attributed to Nahmanides. Nahmanides was a Jewish mystic, writing a marriage manual for the Cabbala. Its purpose was to produce learned sons. What impressed me most as a Protestant—I protest everything—was the Hebrew translation of Leviticus 12:2: “When a woman has an emission…” This is the first reference to female ejaculatory orgasms in Western Literature! Further, in the tractate Niddah of the Talmud, it is indicated that Increased passion (multiple female ejaculatory orgasms?) will produce a male child and less passion (a single ejaculatory orgasm?) will produce a female child.
Leviticus is attributed to Moses (1425 BCE) and thought by some to first be transcribed from the oral tradition by Ezra around 1000 BCE. However, most scholars today suggest it was first transcribed around 400 BCE.
It was around 400 BCE when Hippocrates came up with the “double seed” theory. This said male ejaculate and female ejaculate each contained seeds needed for conception of a child. Ergo, the only way a woman could have a child was if both parties ejaculated! Since most did, it was no big deal.
Galen (200 CE) confirmed this. The Roman Church from its inception in 325 CE, promoted female ejaculatory orgasm for purposes of procreation until 1770 when a scientist successfully artificially inseminated a water spaniel. Granted, this position was weakened by Leeuwenhoek in the late 1660’s when he could only see male sperm under the microscope. But this was blown off because women were inferior and probably had smaller seed. When the KJV was written in 1611, it says, “When a woman conceive a seed…” Now, you know what that means.
After 1770, both female orgasm and ejaculation was trivialized and pooh-poohed!
1886 – Krafft-Ebing – “Female ejaculation is a lesbian condition.”
1905 – Freud* – “Mucous discharge from the vagina is disgusting.”
But, based on the teachings of the Roman Catholic Church, as translated from the Acta Apostolicae Sedis as recently as 1952, it is a sin for women NOT to ejaculate or fully give of themselves.
The point is for 3000 years–and probably thousands before that–women had ejaculatory orgasms as a matter of course. Women’s orgasms have only been shut down for the past 240 years or so. I find it strange that Christianity, especially the Roman Church that keeps marriage as a sacrament, treats sex so profanely, when many pagan religions treat it as sacred. Nahmanides also recommends an attitude of reverence for the woman and the act. In Sanskrit, the vulva is called the “yoni” which means the sacred place.
As an aside, “epigenitics” is the new science of showing how the mind, and other factors, control genetic responses. A term we may be more familiar with is “brainwashing”. Men and women have been “brainwashed” out of female ejaculation! If our minds tell women as they are about to ejaculate (feel the urge to void) they are going to urinate on their lover, then all the King’s horses and all the King’s men are not going to produce an ejaculatory orgasm! And if a man thinks his woman is urinating on him, or has other negative feelings about a woman’s sexual response of which he is ignorant, he may voice displeasure and the woman will acquiesce to please her lover. Of course, there are medical and physiological reasons as well. This is detrimental to both parties!
First, women are cheated out of the pleasure of an ejaculatory orgasm. This pleasure may be an order of magnitude greater than the genital climax to which they may be accustomed. Men are cheated, or may cheat themselves, out of the energy created by the experience that, “… can raise them from mediocrity to the altitude of genius.” (Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich, 1937.)
The bottom line is it is simply a matter of attitude. I do not expect man and women to regard their partners, nor the act of sexual intercourse as “sacred” after reading this blog. It is not going to happen! What can happen is first simply regarding both the partner and the act as a gift. Receive the gift with gratitude. Say, “Thank you”, if only for the instant gratification you receive. And remember, gentlemen that you are also a gift to her. In an LTR, there are a thousand gifts you may give to and receive from one another… out of the bedroom!
“There are a thousand ways to make love with a woman. If you add sex, you have a thousand and one.”
“Romance smells like candles, flowers and wine.
But love? Love smells like sweat and time.”