I generalize and speak for myself when I say, “Men are taught how to get laid and women are taught how to get a man.” For men, well, sex feels good: some women too. Both men and women like feeling good.
Dr. Cindy Meston enumerated 237 reasons Why Humans Have Sex. These reasons are broken into four categories:
- Physical; stress reduction, pleasure, desirability, experience seeking.
- Goal attainment; resources, social status, revenge.
- Emotional; love and commitment, expression.
- Insecurity; self esteem, mate guarding, duty/pressure.
Under emotional, at number 227 overall on the list, was “feeling close to God”. This is the focus of this blog.
Since the dawn of man, sex and spirituality have gone together. With the advent of civilization, that changed. Man’s spirituality may be expressed in many ways besides sexual love. However, it seems to me, all of them involve some segment of love’s spectrum, of which sexual love is but one. It also seems to me that sexual love is the most powerful for the individual parties involved.
My initial focus in my studies was on female ejaculatory orgasms, a phenomenon still denied in many scientific circles. However, recorded Western history both confirms its normality beginning with Leviticus 12: (1425 BC) to Hippocrates “double seed theory” (400 BC—seeds from male and female ejaculate were required to conceive a child) and its promotion by the Roman church until 1770 AD; the first successful artificial insemination experiment. So, it is only for the last 200 years or so that female ejaculatory orgasms were denigrated. Case closed.
Female ejaculatory is more pleasurable for women than non-ejaculatory orgasms. I make that statement because this is what women tell me. They also told this to Dr. Reginer de Gaff in 1660! It is nothing new. However, neither ejaculation, nor the pleasure received (and given) is the end: it is just a beginning. The quantity of pleasure felt by a woman (or man) is directly proportional to the quantity of electrochemical energy she allows to be generated with a sexual experience.
My clinical definition of sex is “the mental and/or physical stimulation of nerve ends, creating electrochemical energy, resulting in pleasurable sensations in the genitalia and other sexual responses.” Unfortunately, since this stimulation results in a “response”, a response can be repressed. “Authorities” for the last 200 years or so, suppressed (outside force) both female orgasm and ejaculation so that women will repress (inside force) this response.
- Krafft-Ebing in 1886 said ejaculation was a lesbian condition. Women who did not wish to be considered lesbians repressed the response.
- Freud in 1905 said a vaginal mucus discharge was disgusting. Women who did not wish to be considered disgusting repressed the response. However, the “mucous discharge” comes through the urethra. Vaginal orgasmic discharge is through the vagina, clear, thin and copious!
- Kinsey in 1948 said it was urinary stress incontinence. Women who did not want their lover to think they were urinating on him repressed this response.
- Masters in 1966 echoed Kinsey with the same results.
Men believe these erroneous doctrines as well. In the 70’s, a man filed for and received an order of divorce because his wife was urinating on him during their honeymoon! So, everyday man also contributes to the suppression of this response. This is done to their detriment!
Question: What is so cool about electrochemical energy?
Answer: It expresses genes! Genes are segments of base pairs on our DNA. They are thought of as switches. Electrochemical energy turns them on or off. When a gene is turned on, it is said to be expressed. We know that calcium ions (Ca+, a form of electrochemical energy) express genes that control the production of dopamine and serotonin neurotransmitters and neuroreceptors. We currently know of other ions that express other genes in the sexual experience to produce things like Oxytocin (the bonding hormone) and PSA, Prostatic Specific Antigen found in ejaculate from both genders because its production is controlled by a gene on chromosome 19 that has nothing to do with gender! It is just human, or perhaps animal.
My experience, and knowledge that science isn’t finished yet, leads me to guess, and believe, that other genes may be expressed not only to provide the experiences in transcendent sex, but also to alter our brain chemistry. This alteration allows us to use our brains more effectively. Notice I did not say “think”. Here I speak of “intuitive powers” or “psychic” or “paranormal” activity. First, I believe every human being is unique, so there is no “one size fits all” type of expression. Second, I wonder if “paranormal” is not actually “normal” and we live in a “sub-normal” state?
So, what does it take to receive this power form altered brain chemistry? Again my guess is love: unconditional love. Hold on! “Love” is not necessary to generate sexual responses! A woman may think her orgasm is an indicator of love, but it is only an indicator of how much energy she allowed to be generated. Love helps, but initially, hormones are more important. Orgasm, transcendent sex or any sexual response is not an indicator of a lasting relationship. Only the discipline of love will provide longevity.
“Love” implies many things: trust, respect acceptance and intimacy among others. These qualities must be present in the individual before they can be given to another. You cannot give what you do not have!
Now, what makes women such fantastic creatures? To date in my studies, I have found 16 different areas in the female genitalia that produce electrochemical energy. Men have 6. This is only physical. The mind activates this. So a man has to look, smell, and sound “good” to the woman before you get started! But once you do, it is strongly advised and recommended for your benefit, you treat the woman at least with respect—even reverence—for what this can do for both of you.
Better yet, through some mechanism, it seems that the energy created in her is somehow transferred to the man as an additional gift of love. I have no idea how it works. It just does.
Is this all to discount the “spiritual experience”? Not at all. It simply offers a possible explanation of how this creative energy may work in humans. It is just something that “left brained” guys can hang onto while science gets us a better answer—if they ever look for one.
Many women intuitively know of their power and seek other outlets. Their husbands and lovers have been conned out of it. I just wanted to show how the con works. Just maybe, some men will catch on and get it back.