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Man. Woman. Sex.

June 17, 2010

            I generalize and speak for myself when I say, “Men are taught how to get laid and women are taught how to get a man.”  For men, well, sex feels good: some women too.  Both men and women like feeling good.

           Dr. Cindy Meston enumerated 237 reasons Why Humans Have Sex.  These reasons are broken into four categories:

  1. Physical; stress reduction, pleasure, desirability, experience seeking.
  2. Goal attainment; resources, social status, revenge.
  3. Emotional; love and commitment, expression.
  4. Insecurity; self esteem, mate guarding, duty/pressure.

Under emotional, at number 227 overall on the list, was “feeling close to God”.  This is the focus of this blog.

            Since the dawn of man, sex and spirituality have gone together.  With the advent of civilization, that changed.  Man’s spirituality may be expressed in many ways besides sexual love.  However, it seems to me, all of them involve some segment of love’s spectrum, of which sexual love is but one.  It also seems to me that sexual love is the most powerful for the individual parties involved.

            My initial focus in my studies was on female ejaculatory orgasms, a phenomenon still denied in many scientific circles.  However, recorded Western history both confirms its normality beginning with Leviticus 12: (1425 BC) to Hippocrates “double seed theory” (400 BC—seeds from male and female ejaculate were required to conceive a child) and its promotion by the Roman church until 1770 AD; the first successful artificial insemination experiment.  So, it is only for the last 200 years or so that female ejaculatory orgasms were denigrated.  Case closed.

            Female ejaculatory is more pleasurable for women than non-ejaculatory orgasms.  I make that statement because this is what women tell me.  They also told this to Dr. Reginer de Gaff in 1660!  It is nothing new.  However, neither ejaculation, nor the pleasure received (and given) is the end: it is just a beginning.  The quantity of pleasure felt by a woman (or man) is directly proportional to the quantity of electrochemical energy she allows to be generated with a sexual experience.

            My clinical definition of sex is “the mental and/or physical stimulation of nerve ends, creating electrochemical energy, resulting in pleasurable sensations in the genitalia and other sexual responses.”  Unfortunately, since this stimulation results in a “response”, a response can be repressed.  “Authorities” for the last 200 years or so, suppressed (outside force) both female orgasm and ejaculation so that women will repress (inside force) this response.

  1. Krafft-Ebing in 1886 said ejaculation was a lesbian condition.  Women who did not wish to be considered lesbians repressed the response.
  2. Freud in 1905 said a vaginal mucus discharge was disgusting.  Women who did not wish to be considered disgusting repressed the response.  However, the “mucous discharge” comes through the urethra.  Vaginal orgasmic discharge is through the vagina, clear, thin and copious!
  3. Kinsey in 1948 said it was urinary stress incontinence.  Women who did not want their lover to think they were urinating on him repressed this response.
  4. Masters in 1966 echoed Kinsey with the same results.

Men believe these erroneous doctrines as well.  In the 70’s, a man filed for and received an order of divorce because his wife was urinating on him during their honeymoon!  So, everyday man also contributes to the suppression of this response.  This is done to their detriment!

            Question:  What is so cool about electrochemical energy?

            Answer:  It expresses genes!  Genes are segments of base pairs on our DNA.  They are thought of as switches.  Electrochemical energy turns them on or off.  When a gene is turned on, it is said to be expressed.  We know that calcium ions (Ca+, a form of electrochemical energy) express genes that control the production of dopamine and serotonin neurotransmitters and neuroreceptors.  We currently know of other ions that express other genes in the sexual experience to produce things like Oxytocin (the bonding hormone) and PSA, Prostatic Specific Antigen found in ejaculate from both genders because its production is controlled by a gene on chromosome 19 that has nothing to do with gender!  It is just human, or perhaps animal. 

            My experience, and knowledge that science isn’t finished yet, leads me to guess, and believe, that other genes may be expressed not only to provide the experiences in transcendent sex, but also to alter our brain chemistry.  This alteration allows us to use our brains more effectively.  Notice I did not say “think”.  Here I speak of “intuitive powers” or “psychic” or “paranormal” activity.  First, I believe every human being is unique, so there is no “one size fits all” type of expression.  Second, I wonder if “paranormal” is not actually “normal” and we live in a “sub-normal” state?

            So, what does it take to receive this power form altered brain chemistry?  Again my guess is love: unconditional love.  Hold on!  “Love” is not necessary to generate sexual responses!  A woman may think her orgasm is an indicator of love, but it is only an indicator of how much energy she allowed to be generated.  Love helps, but initially, hormones are more important.  Orgasm, transcendent sex or any sexual response is not an indicator of a lasting relationship.  Only the discipline of love will provide longevity.

            “Love” implies many things: trust, respect acceptance and intimacy among others.  These qualities must be present in the individual before they can be given to another.  You cannot give what you do not have!

            Now, what makes women such fantastic creatures?  To date in my studies, I have found 16 different areas in the female genitalia that produce electrochemical energy.  Men have 6.  This is only physical. The mind activates this.  So a man has to look, smell, and sound “good” to the woman before you get started!  But once you do, it is strongly advised and recommended for your benefit, you treat the woman at least with respect—even reverence—for what this can do for both of you. 

            Better yet, through some mechanism, it seems that the energy created in her is somehow transferred to the man as an additional gift of love.  I have no idea how it works.  It just does.

            Is this all to discount the “spiritual experience”?  Not at all.  It simply offers a possible explanation of how this creative energy may work in humans.  It is just something that “left brained” guys can hang onto while science gets us a better answer—if they ever look for one.

            Many women intuitively know of their power and seek other outlets.  Their husbands and lovers have been conned out of it.  I just wanted to show how the con works.  Just maybe, some men will catch on and get it back.

Swimming Upstream

June 1, 2010

I’ve been told going against the flow is not recommended. I’m glad nobody told salmon this. There was a catch phrase many years ago, “Question Authority”. I’m a late bloomer, so now I question authority as it relates to sex. Of course, this is like trying to swim upstream over Niagara Falls.

My first question to Authority is, “Why are you giving us all this false information?”

The answer is, “So you will be easier to control. We (the Authority) find that most humans respond to fear quite easily: like 1000 sheep being herded by three or four dogs. If we instill fear, it doesn’t take much to keep you in line.”

My second question is, “How are you going to keep us from finding out what you are saying is false?”

The answer is, “By making it a forbidden topic. Not only that, we will get interdisciplinary authorities to confirm and validate our falsehoods. Further, we will demonize it, so it is not only forbidden, but involvement will place you on the side of the demons. If you do question it, then everybody who believes us will simply disregard what you are saying. They will close their ears, to avoid associating with demons. We are smart that way.”

I finally ask, “Then you would deny man the fullness of his or her humanity simply to control them”

“In a word, yes.”

Well, it is now quite obvious to me that bringing you a different message about the “spiritual side” of sex is swimming upstream! Why? There are many new ideas and concepts as foreign to conventional thinking as Quantum Mechanics is to Newtonian physics.

First, I see many people in the “spiritual world” using the word “energy”. I wonder if they know what it means? I have some knowledge, enough to know it is a measurable entity, it has many forms, and it may exist as either in potential or kinetic states. Further, just because we know of many forms of energy, electrical, chemical, mechanical, etc., doesn’t mean there aren’t more out there we don’t know about. So, we haven’t measured them… yet.
Second is the word, “spiritual”. Do people have spiritual experiences? Absolutely! But what are they? These are powerful experiences to an individual, upsetting our “normal” brain function. We know much of our brain works from two sources: 1. Our genes, and 2. Our beliefs. Our beliefs control our genetic responses to energetic stimulation. “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

Third, is our genes. Our map of the human genome is as accurate as Amerigo Vespucci’s map of the New World in the year 1500. What we do know is that genes produce amino acids—they have found 20 different amino acids, so far. These amino acids combine to form five classes (so far) of proteins: hormones, enzymes, neurotransmitters, neuroreceptors and structural protein. These various proteins, WHEN OUR BELIEF SYSTEMS ALLOW THEM TO BE FORMED, keep us alive, at least in the survival mode.
Fourth, and last, is the word “love”. Suppose love were a kind of energy spectrum all around us, perhaps even throughout the universe? What we call “love” is actually the behaviors, attitudes and beliefs that allow this creative energy to permeate our being, our essence, thereby enhancing our lives.

Whew! These are pretty heavy concepts! They fly in the face of “authoritative conventional wisdom”. So, it would be foolish of me to demand, ask or even suggest you accept them. I’m even willing to admit they may all be in error. But, intuitively I know that human beings are fantastic creatures (especially women). My experience tells me there is a world out there beyond the world of the commonplace we experience on a daily basis. This is simply an explanation of what might be happening within us. The really nice thing is, it doesn’t have to be right! Something wondrous does happen, so whether you believe this is the mechanism or not is immaterial. What is important is that you experience it. So, let’s put it together.

Energy is funny stuff. We eat food: chemical energy. Our bodies at the cellular level break it down into electrochemical energy (ions). These form proteins, which we convert to mechanical energy as seen by our heart beating and our walking around. Then, there is “sexual energy”. Now, until Plato got hold of him, Eros was defined as, “not only the force of erotic love, but also the creative urge of ever flowing nature, the first born Light of coming into being and ordering of all things in the cosmos.” The word force implies an influence that produces motion or a change in motion. This force is created by kinetic energy—acting over time, i.e., work—to influence or produce motion or a change in motion. Love is the energy!

After Plato, we were left with the obvious: sex is for procreation or pleasure. The power of “the creative urge of ever flowing nature” was cast aside. That was around 325 BC.

Spiritual? We humans observe and have experiences we cannot explain by “conventional wisdom” as it existed from the dawn of man until now. So, we credit God, or gods and goddesses for the occurrences. Early on, man invented or created anthropomorphic gods and goddesses, for various facets, to explain these occurrences. Generally, today, there is but One, although Christianity seems to have three. I would call this God “Love”, but since love is a spectrum of energy, we could easily return to the pantheistic without understanding it is all part of the same energy spectrum. We still cannot explain these experiences or their occurrences. We can only guess, as I am doing.

It is nice to know that we know so little about the human genome. We can now credit our genes for “spiritual experiences”, without proof: only inductive reasoning, which may be flawed. One scientist came up with the guess that there was a homosexual gene. Many who wanted to believe it, believed it without proof. It was later dis-proven by those who wanted to keep homosexuality as a moral issue. But genes are funny critters. So far, science only knows of one gene, whose amino acid forms one protein that performs one function in the human body. The rest of them produce very complex amino acids and combine in a complex fashion to form proteins and there are possible combinations still waiting to be investigated. Could one or more of these combinations operate on our brains to make us more effective? To bring about the creative urge of ever flowing nature? I think so, but thinking has its limitations.

Lastly love as a creative energy spectrum certainly validates the expression, “God is love”.

So, what does sex have to do with all this? A clinical definition of sex may be “The mental and/or physical stimulation of nerve ends, creating electro chemical energy that results in pleasurable sensations in the genitalia and other sexual responses.” The word “mental” implies in part, our belief systems about sex and sexuality, most of which was imposed upon us by authoritative voices. This causes us to believe, at its worst, sex is only for procreation, or at the current best, sex is for pleasure. The creative power is disregarded or minimized as childbirth being the ultimate creative power. The true creative power is accessible to all men and women, through the gift of love. We only need open ourselves to it.

But for goodness sakes! Let’s don’t talk about it! “They” don’t want us to.

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