I recently read The Holy Letter, a 13th Century document attributed to Nahmanides. Nahmanides was a Jewish mystic, writing a marriage manual for the Cabbala. Its purpose was to produce learned sons. What impressed me most as a Protestant—I protest everything—was the Hebrew translation of Leviticus 12:2: “When a woman has an emission…” This is the first reference to female ejaculatory orgasms in Western Literature! Further, in the tractate Niddah of the Talmud, it is indicated that Increased passion (multiple female ejaculatory orgasms?) will produce a male child and less passion (a single ejaculatory orgasm?) will produce a female child.
Leviticus is attributed to Moses (1425 BCE) and thought by some to first be transcribed from the oral tradition by Ezra around 1000 BCE. However, most scholars today suggest it was first transcribed around 400 BCE.
It was around 400 BCE when Hippocrates came up with the “double seed” theory. This said male ejaculate and female ejaculate each contained seeds needed for conception of a child. Ergo, the only way a woman could have a child was if both parties ejaculated! Since most did, it was no big deal.
Galen (200 CE) confirmed this. The Roman Church from its inception in 325 CE, promoted female ejaculatory orgasm for purposes of procreation until 1770 when a scientist successfully artificially inseminated a water spaniel. Granted, this position was weakened by Leeuwenhoek in the late 1660′s when he could only see male sperm under the microscope. But this was blown off because women were inferior and probably had smaller seed. When the KJV was written in 1611, it says, “When a woman conceive a seed…” Now, you know what that means.
After 1770, both female orgasm and ejaculation was trivialized and pooh-poohed!
1886 – Krafft-Ebing – “Female ejaculation is a lesbian condition.”
1905 – Freud* – “Mucous discharge from the vagina is disgusting.”
But, based on the teachings of the Roman Catholic Church, as translated from the Acta Apostolicae Sedis as recently as 1952, it is a sin for women NOT to ejaculate or fully give of themselves.
The point is for 3000 years–and probably thousands before that–women had ejaculatory orgasms as a matter of course. Women’s orgasms have only been shut down for the past 240 years or so. I find it strange that Christianity, especially the Roman Church that keeps marriage as a sacrament, treats sex so profanely, when many pagan religions treat it as sacred. Nahmanides also recommends an attitude of reverence for the woman and the act. In Sanskrit, the vulva is called the “yoni” which means the sacred place.
As an aside, “epigenitics” is the new science of showing how the mind, and other factors, control genetic responses. A term we may be more familiar with is “brainwashing”. Men and women have been “brainwashed” out of female ejaculation! If our minds tell women as they are about to ejaculate (feel the urge to void) they are going to urinate on their lover, then all the King’s horses and all the King’s men are not going to produce an ejaculatory orgasm! And if a man thinks his woman is urinating on him, or has other negative feelings about a woman’s sexual response of which he is ignorant, he may voice displeasure and the woman will acquiesce to please her lover. Of course, there are medical and physiological reasons as well. This is detrimental to both parties!
First, women are cheated out of the pleasure of an ejaculatory orgasm. This pleasure may be an order of magnitude greater than the genital climax to which they may be accustomed. Men are cheated, or may cheat themselves, out of the energy created by the experience that, “… can raise them from mediocrity to the altitude of genius.” (Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich, 1937.)
The bottom line is it is simply a matter of attitude. I do not expect man and women to regard their partners, nor the act of sexual intercourse as “sacred” after reading this blog. It is not going to happen! What can happen is first simply regarding both the partner and the act as a gift. Receive the gift with gratitude. Say, “Thank you”, if only for the instant gratification you receive. And remember, gentlemen that you are also a gift to her. In an LTR, there are a thousand gifts you may give to and receive from one another… out of the bedroom!
Also remember:
“There are a thousand ways to make love with a woman. If you add sex, you have a thousand and one.”
And,
“Romance smells like candles, flowers and wine.
But love? Love smells like sweat and time.”
August 14, 2011 at 12:07 pm |
I have only recently learned about feminine ejaculation. I found your ancient and Biblical references fascinating. This proves that you’re never too old to learn. Always learning keeps you young.
August 14, 2011 at 1:24 pm |
To me, what is more interesting is how we have been kept from information regarding our sexuality and guided toward the wilderness of pleasure while abjuring it at the same time. It is our transformation that is feared.
November 7, 2011 at 12:32 am |
Before the Joy of Sex most women didn’t know beans about an Orgasm. I didn’t know I should have one and I didn’t have one. Back then it was all about not being “frigid” which was translated into not giving your husband sex on demand. That could mean with mine while bending over to put a roast in the oven, on the table while setting the table for dinner or anywhere at any time. That was all he thought about all the time and any type of rejection was being frigid even if we had sex just a few hours before. It was nothing but a bothersome chore. The idea of it having anything at all to do with religion would have been the silliest thing imaginable. Bad girls did it before marraige and that was not going to happen to me. Married women did it because they were married and had to and I was normal according to my conversations with my friends. .
November 7, 2011 at 5:01 am |
The sexual shutdown of women began in the 2 millieum BC! It got hotter with the malleus Maleficarium in 1486, but the Roman Church wwas still promoting female ejaculation for procreation. About the time Looenhook couldn’t find female seed in 1660, was about the same time women in France stopped ejaculating as a birth control mechanism. After the Italian artificially inseminated a water spaniel in 1784, the Roman church shut down all pleasure for women. And this carried over into Protestantism. The Victorian era was really screwed up, and a lot of us were, and are, still living in it.
November 9, 2011 at 12:56 pm |
Fascinating and well written. As a person who’s part of a sexual awareness and empowerment business, this is useful as well as intriguing information.
I especially like the last quotes:
“There are a thousand ways to make love with a woman. If you add sex, you have a thousand and one.”
And: “Romance smells like candles, flowers and wine.
But love? Love smells like sweat and time.”
Whose are they?
November 9, 2011 at 1:33 pm |
The first quote is by that prolific writer, Anonymous. The second is mine.
November 9, 2011 at 1:49 pm
Art, fyi I’m Sheri Winston’s partner. I’ve asked her to respond to you directly. She’s on the road with more on her plate than she can handle — hopefully she’ll get back to you.